A post in another groups got me thinking about bullying on CM.
I find some of the behavior in some of the groups to be abhorrent. Some of the women on this site seem focused on doing nothing more than belittling other moms.
That said, I take issue with the accusation that moms on here get bullied.
By definition bullying has two aspects:
- An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
- Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once
How can there possibly be an imbalance of power between two anonymous people online? No one on this site has any power over me at all.
If at some point I somehow felt that someone did have influence or power over me and I was being mistreated I would never to choose to continue interacting with that person. In fact, the one time I had a member harassing me for a period of time I ignored her completely until she gave up. Not only was it not bothering me, I found it kind of amusing that a grown woman behaved in that way.
If someone in a specific group is bothering a member there are hundreds of groups on the site. And if that fails, I do not have to come to CM. Why would anyone continue using a website if they were being traumatized while they are on it?
I am concerned about the trend I see that we are becoming a culture of victims. If someone online is bullying an adult they have total control over stopping it. I am worry about future generations who aren't being taught to advocate for themselves and solve their own problems. If today's mothers would allow them selves to be mistreated, how will their children learn otherwise?