"Im afraid of being the only one in class without friends"
So yesterday I had a conference with DD's 1st grade teacher to see how the year was going, she said everything was good, socially she was doing fine, nothing stuck out to the teacher (a teacher of 20yrs), but that she did cry a lot and seemed sensitive...... My DD is sensitive, but I was kinda shocked to hear she cries a lot... Teacher said it was over small things...
I ask my DD and she denies it and says "no, I know not to do that in school" .... Hmm, makes no sense because I believe the teacher, why would she lie?.... But after a while, tears are in DDs eyes & she starts to tell me she DOES NOT cry in school but she is afraid she is going to end up with no friends and she has been giving her "tickets" to her "closest friend" so she doesnt lose her as a friend.
The girl is not threatening my DD, but begging for her tickets she gets in class so DD started giving them to her so the girl would stop asking.... (be good in class/do something special, collect tickets, get 10 tickets & you get to have something in the treasure box)..
I dont know why but ever since Kindergarten my DD has had problems with making friends in school, since Im not in school with her I dont know what to do & her Kinder & 1st grade teacher say she is doing fine socially ---- If she is doing fine socially why is my DD afraid of not having friends!!
Also the "popular" girl in the class has disliked my DD & been rude to her since the 1st day of kinder & Ive never understood why.. (My DD was taken out of normal classes & put into GATE classes the 2nd week of kinder, the 1st day my DD came home from GATE class "miss. popular" has been a name in my household for not being nice to DD)
I dont know what to do :( ..... Part of me says they are only in 1st grade, and by 3rd grade things will change A LOT.. But Im afraid, they could change for the good & DD could get a good small group of friends & love school.. Or DD could end up with no friends & hating school & learn to hate learning in the process & get down on herself...
Im at total loss. I have always been shy my whole life & stood back & waited for friends & never had problems making new friends in school... My DD is different, she is VERY social & talkative & wants to be friends with everyone so I have no clue how to help her because I know we are very different in that aspect.
(ok Ill stop. but my mommy heart is break & I cried along with my DD today. My heart hurts for her because I know she is a sensitive, caring person who just wants to be like all kids & be liked.)