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soooooo embarassing!! But i need some advice!!

Posted by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 12:38 PM
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sooo last weekend i caught my daughter in her room humping her stuffed bear...i know that as a working member of the medical field this is part of child development...however as a mom that crap kinda freaked me out. I started to go through things she may have seen...but then ruled out my sex life with my SO because its behind locked doors at 1am after she has gone to bed...and i dont allow her to watch anything inappropriate on TV.

I truly hope im not the only mother who caught their kid doing this? I didnt yell at her, I just redirected her back to what she was originally supposed to be doing. I already had to have the "good touch bad touch" talk with her which was super hard. In fact i had taken her to a specialist who could help me with it because i really didnt know how to approach that subject...and last year i had to have the "period" talk with her...I guess i just want to know that im definitely not the only mom out there that's had to deal with this???

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Jinx-Troublex3
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2013 at 12:42 PM
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I cant recommmend the American Girl book,"Care and Keeping of You" enough. Fabulous, age appropriate.book! Worth every penny! It really made talking with DD easy.
Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:03 PM

How old is she?

if she was in her room, she was where she should be to do that sort of thing. 

X_Patriot_Mom_X
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:06 PM

She's 8 going to be 9 this saturday. She was most definitely in her room. Thank god.

soymujer
by Mikki on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:11 PM

I have caught my youngest son doing but he was just copying the dog.  We told him to not do that and he hasn't done it since.

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AmiJanell
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:11 PM
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I guess I don't know what there is to "deal with"... you said, you know this is developmentally appropriate... and it IS.  It's normal behavior... NORMAL.   She did it in her room in privacy, where it should be done.  If she starts doing it around the house, then talk to her about it being a private matter.  I don't think it needs to be talked about at all at this point .

VintageWife
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:12 PM

I don't think she necessarily saw it anywhere in particular. She may have just moved across something and realized it felt good so she decided to experiment. My girls aren't that old yet (my boys are the older ones), but I bet that book a pp mentioned would be a good idea.

Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:14 PM

Honestly, there's nothing really sexual about it. It's something that feels good and that's all she knows at this point. There's no need to sexualize it when talking to her. The thing is to talk about when it's appropriate to do and when it's not. That's about all you need to bring up at this point.

X_Patriot_Mom_X
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:16 PM


Yeah i figured as much. Like i said i think its just the fact of knowing you're not the only mother in the world that has had to deal with it ...ya know? its like "whoa! what new idea has my child stumbled upon this time?!"

Quoting Andrewsmom70:

Honestly, there's nothing really sexual about it. It's something that feels good and that's all she knows at this point. There's no need to sexualize it when talking to her. The thing is to talk about when it's appropriate to do and when it's not. That's about all you need to bring up at this point.



kellysp6637
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:16 PM

 I agree....this book is wonderful....my dd just turned ten and I bought it for her last year after I found her snooping through all my femine articles in the bathroom......

OP...I wouldn't worry too much about it. 

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

I cant recommmend the American Girl book,"Care and Keeping of You" enough. Fabulous, age appropriate.book! Worth every penny! It really made talking with DD easy.

 

veggiemom474
by on Oct. 9, 2013 at 1:17 PM

Yeah, it's normal, no need to stress about it. Not a sign of anything bad.

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