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Posted by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 2:46 AM
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 I've been reading some of the post to see if i see anyone with the same issues i am facing with my 6 year old son.  He's in 1st grade, the first few weeks of school he did fine.. but all of a sudden he is acting out in class, moving around and not focusing.  He complains all the time that he hates school and he wants to stay home with me.  He is an only child and he's always with me more so than his father because daddy is working.  His kindergarten teacher suggested that i have him tested to see if he needs hlep.  It came back after the evaluation that he has a learning disability.  So now in 1st grade he has the help he needs.  Not getting off track but he also take swim class he is very disaplined when he's in swim class he is focus and does what the instructor tells him to do.  He got his report on his swimming today and he scored hight on everything including focusing, disapline and taking instruction from the instructor.  

I told him why is it he can't do the same thing in class, he tells me he is board, gets sleepy and wants to go home.  As we all know the cirriculum for our kids is a lot of work, testing and homework at the end of the day.  One of his teacher told me last week that he does not have a learning problem, he is a smart kid his problem is he does not know how to stay focus.  I get very  frustrated when i pick him up from school and there is a complain from the teacher.  He promises me he will be good the next day in school and it might last for a couple days and the complains starts again.

My question is what can i do, to help him with the issues he's having so that he wouldn't  be deprive of learning and he would get the help he needs in class.  I'm wondering if  anyone of his 2 teachers ignore him that is why he gets frustrated and acts out.  I was also thinking to get a behavioral therapist for him.  I don't know of any thing else i can do for my child.   Please help me if you guys know of any options that is available for us.  I live in New York.

by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 2:46 AM
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by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 2:59 AM

I would see a behavioral child therapist and check out whether he has a disability or perhaps he is actually bored with material when he knows it already.   Have you done a positive reinforcement chart with him.   He would need to listen to his teacher and do his work each day to get one sticker that day . When he gets so many stickers he gets to choose a reward.

What kind of consequences do you have at home for when he does not follow house rules? Those could be added upon for doing classwork as well.

My dd has processing issues so she has all sorts of things in her IEP to help her and we have been told that this year she has progressed really fast in these 2 months of school so far.  She is extremely smart and can get bored if not engaged properly which thankfully her teacher knows how to do.

by Platinum Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 9:11 AM

He sounds immature.  Boys tend to struggle with the classroom if they are on the young side.  When does he turn 7?  If he like swimming and is good at it, then you and the coach can formulate a behavior plan for school using this. 

by Platinum Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 9:25 AM
He does well in swimming because he enjoys it, school, not so much. I agree with the pp about doung a reward chart. Some kids need visual cues to remember to stay on task.

Ask his teacher to put a large strip of fuzzy velcro under his desk. When he's bored , he can rub his fingers on it. Sounds strange but it really helped DS in 3rd grade.
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by Gold Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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My son was having behavior issues in school and we included school behavior in his list of things required to earn his allowance. It made all the difference in the world to him to know he might not get as much allowance if he misbehaved at school. You just have to find his "currency" to motivate him to do well. I agree that part of it might be immaturity too though.

by Max on Oct. 20, 2013 at 10:45 AM

Talk to the teacher about putting a behavior plan in place. 

See if she can break the day down into smaller time frames for him to focus on focusing. For a young child being good for the whole school day can be overwhelming. Focusing on an hour or a couple of hours is much less daunting. Then if he does take a misstep he gets to start over for a new time period soon. If the goal is to be good for the whole day and he messed up in the morning there's really no motivation for him to try the rest of the day. 

by Max on Oct. 20, 2013 at 10:46 AM

OP, does he have an IEP?

If he does you can request and IEP meeting to see what other accommodations they can provide for him.

by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 12:53 PM

He does have an IEP and we are working together to take care of the problem.  But i will say some of the ideas that i got from you guys are ideas that i did not think of.  I made a chart but some of the rewards to offer are good ones.  I've never given him an allowance so i will start with that because he likes to have money in his piggie bank.  I also use color on the chart on the days that he is good and the days he not so good.  So i'm going to try them and see what works and what does not.  I have to keep trying because i don't want my child to be label difficult when i know there is something that can reach him so he calms down.  He is 6 years old he turns 7 years in August next year.  And yes i do agree immaturity does play a part.  I also wonder sometimes if the school had male teachers, instead of all female if that would make a difference.  Anyway thank you ladies for all advice.

by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 12:54 PM

Sounds like he needs to be challenged. Tell the teacher to try pushing him, if he is disciplined in swimming perhaps he needs more push in school. 

by Silver Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 1:59 PM

If he gets bored that usually means more challenging classes are needed.  When he was evaluated did the educational specialist state that his educational level is higher then his biological age?  My son's did when he was 3, they stated he was at the level of a 6 year old.  I would go back to ESE services and ask that certain classes be advanced for him.

by Gold Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 2:24 PM
My son has attention issues. We have been practicing coping techniques at home. He is extremely sharp and can focus on things he is interested in. The issues come when things are hard, boring, etc....
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