If you have a complaint about your child's teacher who hears about it?
I am dealing with a situation I've never really dealt with as a teacher before. Or at least I never knew if was happening in the past.
I have a student who is having some issues with his behavior. He's also having some health issues that seem to be clearly impacting his behavior. I've been contact with his mother frequently and I thought we were together to help him. When ever I speak to her she sings my praises and thanks me profusely for everything I am doing for him.
However, what she's telling other people is a whole other story. One of her relatives recently called one of our administrators and basically blasted me and the entire school for letting the child's issues go on and doing nothing to help him. The family member shared a litany of complaints I had never even heard of before. The administrator explained that she can't discuss anything about the child without the permission of his parents and offered to have a meeting with the mother, the administrator and me but she declined. Another school administrator followed up with the mother asking if everything is OK and again she sang my praises and told him I a "God send" for her child.
I've had other people tell me the mom is very unhappy with what's going on in my classroom as well. I guess she doesn't realize that it's a small town and people tend to repeat what people say. I've scheduled several confrences with the mother to try to discuss this and she's cancelled every one. When I get her on the phone and directly ask is she has other concerns or suggestions for what I could be doing she goes on and on about how great I've been all year.
I am totally at a loss. I don't know if the mom is really unhappy with me but for some reasons thinks she needs to pretend she likes me. Or maybe she doesn't blame me at all for these issues, but needs something to tell other people to explain what's going on.
I am totally confused and it's driving me nuts! If she thinks I'm doing something wrong I wish she would just tell me. Maybe I can make adjustments, maybe I can just explain why things are they way they are. If she's looking for someone to blame for her child's issues I wish she'd leave me out of it.
Anyway... do you know anyone like this? And ideas? I've tried to be as direct as possible and I am getting no where.