Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Elementary School Kids Elementary School Kids

Consequences

Posted by on Dec. 9, 2013 at 4:10 PM
  • 20 Replies

My little girl is in kindergarten. Her behavior lately is atrocious. She's mean, she's loud, she's disrespectful. She has gotten tickets every week since the 3rd week of school saying she's hitting others, blowing in their faces, scribbling on her seat protector, yelling at the teacher when she doesn't get her way.

The teacher has been great and tried several different plans to reward her good days. But it's not working anymore. 

She has gotten things taken away including special outings, the TV stays off, the toys stay locked up, she doesn't get sweets when she has a bad day. But I'm at the end of my rope.  How do I get her under control? 

 

 

by on Dec. 9, 2013 at 4:10 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 4:12 PM
1 mom liked this

What is her most favorite thing in the world? You've got to figure out her currency.

Ritata
by Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 4:23 PM
Her blankie. I've been trying to get rid of it for yeara, but she sobs. She can't take it to school.
Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 5:41 PM

What else? 

Quoting Ritata: Her blankie. I've been trying to get rid of it for yeara, but she sobs. She can't take it to school.


emarin77
by Bronze Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 6:09 PM

I would have her evaluated by the school or a private child psychologist.  Time outs and teaching her to use her words need to be used to teach her how to communicate not hit others.  Postive reinforcement can be given once she is using her words.  Once diagnosed have her recieving IEP services to best educate her.

Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 6:20 PM
1 mom liked this

Every child misbehaving at school doesn't necessarily need a diagnosis and an IEP.

Quoting emarin77:

I would have her evaluated by the school or a private child psychologist.  Time outs and teaching her to use her words need to be used to teach her how to communicate not hit others.  Postive reinforcement can be given once she is using her words.  Once diagnosed have her recieving IEP services to best educate her.


geekymom08
by Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 6:37 PM
I would see a behavior specialist just to see what they think. They have dealt with everything! They would be able to help lead you in a better direction.
Ritata
by Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 7:07 PM
The behavior specialist said she doesn't think my DD's behavior warrants her intervention.
Ritata
by Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 7:19 PM
The counselor will have a social group for the kindergarteners struggling with the social aspect, basically re-learning how to play nice with others. Her class will have 3-4 kids including her attending. She's doing great with the academics.
Saharra
by Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 7:38 PM
I would find out what makes her tick... You say her blanket? Well maybe talk to her about loosing it for the day if she has a bad day at school. If she has a good day, she gets it back. This makes it so she has to work for it. Make sure you explain to her what "being good" means. On the way to school each morning ask her what she's going to do that day. "Are you going to listen to your teacher today?" "Are you going to keep your hands to yourself today?" Eventually she should be able to tell you each day. The more questions you ask, the more she is able to make it feel like it's her choice. Also remind her if she has a good day she gets her blankie back.
And reward her really well when she does have a good day. Such as- take her somewhere special after school randomly. If you don't eat out often, maybe through McD's for an ice cream cone. Just some ideas!
Andrewsmom70
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 7:46 PM

If it were something else, not something she uses for comfort/soothing, I'd agree but I don't think taking away her blanket would be the best option. 

Quoting Saharra: I would find out what makes her tick... You say her blanket? Well maybe talk to her about loosing it for the day if she has a bad day at school. If she has a good day, she gets it back. This makes it so she has to work for it. Make sure you explain to her what "being good" means. On the way to school each morning ask her what she's going to do that day. "Are you going to listen to your teacher today?" "Are you going to keep your hands to yourself today?" Eventually she should be able to tell you each day. The more questions you ask, the more she is able to make it feel like it's her choice. Also remind her if she has a good day she gets her blankie back.
And reward her really well when she does have a good day. Such as- take her somewhere special after school randomly. If you don't eat out often, maybe through McD's for an ice cream cone. Just some ideas!


Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)