Secret Facebook Account Messages Shattered My Heart
I don't normally post for questions or advice, but I am heartbroken. I just found out my 11 year old daughter has a Facebook account. I logged on to my computer this evening & found her FB account still logged in. The messages that have transpired over the last few days sicken me. There is a boy messaging her about "being under the covers & making a baby" & blowjobs. Ugh.......I'm disgusted at the type of behavior in 11 year old children. I must say my daughter didn't reply with any sexual comments, just the winking emoticons......which are bad enough for me. After I read the messages I immediately sent a form to FB to have the account permanently deleted. I haven't heard back from them yet.
The other part the really breaks my heart is the messages that transpired between the boy's ex-girlfriend & my daughter. They were bashing each other. She was telling my daughter how she was going to end up pregnant by the time she was 13..........& my daughter responded "you never know". How do I handle this??!! I've spoken to her numerous times about her reputation. I truly thought my warnings about behavior, reputation, and social media had worked.
I have always been the parent who promised her children she wouldn't snoop through their private diary's and text messages. This is partially because my mother did it to me & I was completely traumatized. If I ever thought my children were in danger or lying to me, I would definitely snoop; however, they have never given me reason to believe they were. I occasionally check my 16 year old son's FB, Twitter, & texts, but he doesn't even pretend to have anything to hide. My daughter is an extremely well-behaved, straight A student. I never, never saw this coming!!!! I know I shouldn't be naive. I am just sick, sick, sick!!!!!! How do I handle this without overreacting & creating a much larger issue. How much of this is typical pre-teen behavior? Omg, I don't know how to recover..............