I'm kinda over this school year. On the whole it's not been bad; my dd has really excelled in her grades and her conduct; she is a straight-A student snd has won awards for other things during the year, and lives school. We are going through a rough patch right now, because she's going through the "seven-year sass," as I think of it (my sis is going through it with my 7-year-old nephew too), and because she's been on medecine that makes her a bit jittery and extra-emotionally-sensitive.
But I feel my dd's teacher is overwhelmed. Her class mix is toxic; lots of the kids don't dislike each other--they HATE each other. One of the boys' parents are going through a divorce (mom's my friend) and he's pissed at the world and takes it out on every other student in the class. One girl is a young "mean girl"-in-training, and has an unknown issue with my dd, and has gotten another girl going down her path; the same "mean girl" doesn't get along with her male cousin in the class, and occasionslly physical fights break out. The "mean girl" also causes trouble in general; during their "center time" (or "stations," as dd calls it), this girl just wanders from group to group, not doing work but inhibiting others. She takes stuff from the kids, gets in the way, starts little arguments, whatever she can to disrupt others' work; I've seen her do it while volunteering in the room. The girl is horrible to my dd 4 days per week, but on the day when I'm in the room, she's all sweetness to me and acts as if my dd is her buddy. In the past werk (like, 7 days), 2-3 of my dd's behavior incidents involve this girl picking fights (arguments); I have stressed to my dd to stop letting the girl get under her skin, but it's ridiculous, because it's a constant thing.
There is a special-needs boy in the class who adores my dd and she takes extra time helping him when her work is done, and helps him walk through the halls calmly, etc. This boy, however, has no concepts of personal boundaries or how to play appropriately, and has physically hurt my dd twice (like left marks) and broken her glasses once; I have had to have them separated periodically through the day to give dd a break from him. This same SN child does NOT get along with another boy in the class, sometimes to the point of fighting; in fact, most of the kids don't like being around him because his behavior is erratic and noisy and they don't want to be hurt (he has accidentally hurt other kids too).
There's just always "Something" going on and the teacher really needs an aide, but 1st grade teachers don't get aides unless they teach ESL, and those 4 teachers all share one aide.
This past 6-weeks (the 3rd 6-weeks period), the 1st grade officially started the Advanced Reading (AR) Program. My dd, whose reading level was WAY above what was required to start, did not get to participate because NO ONE in her class did; the teacher just didn't do it (she was not alone; not every class participated). I know that many of her kids weren't on the level to start, but as it is individual, I would've liked my dd and the others who could've to been able; they didn't get a chance to earn a ticket to the AR Party, which featured one of my dd's favorite books. I feel like dd's teacher opted out because she's overwhelmed and didn't need "one more thing to do."
Today my dd brought home a paper with a 40 on it. She says it's not hers. Her name is written in by the teacher. Honestly, it doesn't look like my dd's; my dd doodles all over her paper, and this one is clean. My dd is really messy about filling in the little bubbles on multiple-choice questions but these are super-tidy (I go over every paper sent home and I notice trends like that). Unfortunately, it's all multiple-choice so there's no handwriting to check against my dd's. My dh quizzed her over the questions, and she knew the answers (we found the story online and can verify that she's correct). I wouldn't care about it because mistakes happen but as the grade is a 40, it has brought my dd's Reading grade to a 70, and they don't take very many grades so it'll be hard to recover from that. I've decided to email the teacher, even though I hate being "That mom."
I feel bad for the teacher. She should not have to deal with this much in a class of 22 kids. The kids bicker and fight most of the time, and I personally would've quit if I'd been their teacher. But I'm just really ready for the school year to be over, and it wouldn't surprise me if she were too.
ETA: An aide has been requested, and denied; only the SN child's parents could get one placed, and they won't. I DO volunteer at the school (as I stated above); that is why I know the dynamics of the class so well. I have also talked to the teacher and to my dd about the worksheet. The teacher is going to retest dd on the material, and dd has been reminded about putting her name on her work. I am in constant communication with the teacher about what's going on. It is one of the reasons I know what the class is like. I am, unfortunately, one of very few. Most parents pop up for parties only, and that's it, despite multiple requests for help. My dh also volunteers; we are just about the only parents the teacher sees often enough to recognize.