Currently both kids (7 & 6) are in a small private school. It is a great school and up until this year I have really loved my 7 yr olds teachers. this year she ended up with an older teacher who is less maternal than her past two teachers.
DD is nearly 8 and in 2nd grade. She has been diagnosed with adhd (inattention), suffers from anxiety, diagnosed with a severe depressive disorder and has a low working memory. She excels in reading and vocab but if you give her an AR test on those books she won't remember...
This didn't all come out until this time last year and her first grade teacher was wonderful with her. Then last summer she tried to kill herself and is now under the care of a psychiatrist and is in counseling.
Quite frankly I was surprised the school didn't ask her to leave - I know they have in the past of students requiring help.
We sat down with the heads of school, both 2nd grade teachers, the counselor and the "resource" teacher to come up with an accomodation plan for her. Which I thought was great - it allowed for extra time for writing assignments, if she masters a concept no further repetition.
she also has major food allergies and they have been wonderful to accomodate that too without having a 504 in place - the school just takes care of her without questions..
However things are starting to unravel, my once super smart girl is struggling... I had emailed her teacher on Thursday this week to let her know that DD couldn't do her math and despite me explaining it (counting on for subtraction) she just couldn't get it. In a second email I had asked if she was showing more signs of anxiety at school (Monday she wet herself at school and that day came home and cried on the floor about not being able to keep up)
Her first response back was to stop her from carrying on, the second email said "Like I said she is struggling to keep up in all subjects" - she said no such thing to me and infact at teacher conferences the week before she made no mention of this and I doubt in one week this has happened.
My other son is super smart too and on the other extreme probably isn't getting enough to challenge him - mind you he is only in K but well above everyone across the board.
My husband is against homeschooling which was what I wanted to do. If I switched them both to public both may benefit - there are gifted programs if my son qualifies and my daughter could get a 504 and IEP if necessary and there would be school psychologist.
However we would have to apply to get them into a smaller elementary school that we are just out of zone for but the size would be better for DD but gifted classes don't start until 2nd - or a larger one with gifted classes that start from K but I think DD would be lost and overwhelmed.
They would no longer be learning a second language in school but I guess that is minor.
Her psychiatrist has just increased her Vyvanse to see if that will help but we are not telling her teacher...just yet anyway.
sorry this is long but I wonder if my DD would benefit from switching to public - my son would have to anyway as i can't have my kids split over counties and DD would think she had done something wrong.
If you have made it to the end of this thank you!!