My oldest son had struggled in school since kindergarten. He's almost 13 now. He did get diagnosed with ADHD around age 9, after his 3rd & 4th grade teachers bringing it up. It was a lot of work to get a diagnosis,a lot of testing and trying alternatives to meds before finally trying the meds. They did end up helping. He was able to focus, his grades shot up. But he wasn't himself. He tried them on & off. He's off them now. His grades aren't so hot. But I really don't want him on them. His doctor didn't want him on them anymore either.
Anyway, that was background on my ADHD experience. My 2nd son, he's almost 11 now, has always done really well in school. His conferences always went great. Last year he started slipping..the work is getting harder and I don't think he's ever been used to a challenge in school. I had conferences last night. His teacher is talking about his attention, he thought he was diagnosed ADHD and on meds. I told him no, and that it's never been an issue with him before. He's always done really well and able to stay on task. The teacher mentioned meds a few more times.
I wish school was different. I wish we had those kind of schools I keep reading about, a more laid back, playful environment that encourage curiousity and learning naturally...instead of teaching them information just for a test. I'm tired of my boys being squeezed into a little box. My dd fits in the box just fine, it works for her. But not for my boys. I worry about getting them to graduation day. I wonder how many more teachers are going to mention medication to me.
So, this was a vent, but also, suggestions? Are you going through something similar? Would you consider getting your kid diagnosed when you thought there was no problem?