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Should Little Boys Have Pierced Ears?

Posted by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 2:46 PM
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Should Little Boys Have Pierced Ears?

by Adriana Velez 

pierced earsIt can be a big dilemma when your little girl wants her ears pierced. But what do you do when your son asks to have his ears pierced? Little boys ... with earrings! Are we ready for that? Apparently this is something boys are asking for at a younger age. Maybe it's a trickle-down influence from pirate Jack Sparrow -- or maybe it's some other cultural phenomenon we parents are totally clueless about. But it's bound to throw even the most open-minded parent. My friend's 9-year-old son recently asked to have his ears pierced, and this is how she handled it.

Linda wasn't that surprised because her son likes to "adorn" himself anyway. He wears rings on his fingers and sometimes a necklace or two. Still, when Z asked for earrings, she wanted to think about it, and she wanted him to think about it as well.

When she and her husband talked it over, they came to the conclusion that if their son really wanted his ears pierced, it would just be fair to say yes. Why? Because his sister's ears are pierced. Why enforce a double standard for ear-piercing?

Linda's daughter had her ears pierced, for cultural reasons, when she was 4 years old. And she loves her earrings. Gender equality is important to this whole family. So Linda is letting Z sit with the idea for a while. "If he asked again, we wouldn't hold him back if that's what he wanted to do."

It helps that they home-school, so Z isn't likely to get harassed by other kids or teachers. The important thing is that their son give the idea some serious thought, first. They're not making this decision on a whim. 

I think that's pretty reasonable. I hadn't thought of it that way before -- if you're willing to pierce a girl's ears, you should be willing to pierce your son's as well, if they want it. And who knows -- maybe this will become fairly commonplace in a few years.

What would you say if your young son asked to have his ears pierced?

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mommaFruFru
by Gold Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:02 PM
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I personaally don't like pierced ears on boys.but it is their body and their choice. I would let them know how much work maintenance is on ear piercings. Take them to watch a few. And if they wanted it still, then yes, id let them get it done
wakymom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:19 PM

 As long as they are mature enough to take care of them properly themselves, I guess I'd be ok w/ it. Dh, on the other hand, might have more of an issue. I can see him going for 1 ear, but both. . . ?

 

 

 

2-point-doe
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:39 PM

 well, my 25 yo DS started asking at the age of 5. It was the mid 90's so mullets and pierced ears were the thing. I let him do it before he was 10. I think he has 4 holes now.

DD asked at 3 and got them at 4.

BonitaM
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:50 PM

If I had a son and he asked I would say no.  If he wants to get it pierced as an adult that's his thing to do but we are fairly traditional and getting ears pierced is a special thing for little girls to do.  I'm waiting for the day DD asks to have her ears pierced.  I don't believe in piercing them when they are really young either.  In my family it's a special part of growing up. 

OHgirlinCA
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:59 PM
As a teenager... fine. Before that... No.
jamianne
by Silver Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 4:26 PM

If ds asked and we felt he was responsible enough to keep them clean and cared for we'd most likely allow him to do it.

GwenMB
by Gwen on Apr. 8, 2014 at 4:47 PM

I wouldn't let a daughter pierce her ears, so I won't let my boys do that either.

ljmom24
by Silver Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 5:30 PM
It's a no no according to schools dress code (girls can't wear them either) so it's an easy no. Plus my boys hate shots so could never see them willingly want a needle on ear
snowangel1979
by Bronze Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 5:34 PM
If my son asked at his age now (10) or older, maybe.
It wouldn't be a fly by night decision though, I let it rest for a few months and then revisit it.
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mommaFruFru
by Gold Member on Apr. 8, 2014 at 6:13 PM
Wow. That is one strict school dress code.

I've never heard of one that didn't allow ear piercing. That would be one rule I would protest, if I had daughters


Quoting ljmom24: It's a no no according to schools dress code (girls can't wear them either) so it's an easy no. Plus my boys hate shots so could never see them willingly want a needle on ear
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