My 11yr old son has a friend who sleeps over often. Sometimes the guest is well behaved and polite., sometimes hyper and eratic. They are good kids and I'm pretty relaxed so it doesn't bother me too much when he's a little wild. I have mentioned to his mom that sometimes he forgets his manners, but I also tell her when he's good.
Last weekend he came over for a sleepover and he had a baggie of pills in his hand when he walked in the door. I asked what they were, and he said they were his "ADHD crazy meds". He said sometimes he forgets to take them, but he brought them this time.
I was concerned about how & when he was supposed to take the meds. I called his mom & dad and left voicemails, but never heard back that evening. The boy said he knew what to do with them and he'd take one pill right before bed, and a different one if he felt "crazy". This is the same kid who had been at my house at least 20 times, and I never knew that he was on meds, or had these issues. And, there were at least 10-15 pills in the baggie - far more than the 2 he said he needed.
The next day when his dad picked him up, I asked about the meds. He replied that the boy knows when to take them and there's nothing to worry about. Also that they don't like to tell people because they don't want to embarrass the boy or have anyone judge him.
So here's what's going through my mind:
1 - What exactly are this kid's problems and why didn't the parents tell me in advance?
2 - What if he leaves these pills laying around and my ds, dd, dog or cat eat them?
3 - Do I need a signed medical disclosure from every family that wants to have a sleepover at my house?
4 - What if this kid takes his medicine incorrectly while in my care?
5 - Do I have a right to know about my guests' medical and psychological conditions?
Before the boys request another sleepover, I feel like I need to establish some rules about medications in my house. They need to be put away in our medicine cupboard and I'll give the boy his pills according to the schedule provided by the mom & dad. I don't want them left lying around, and I don't want any accidental mis-use.
Has anyone else dealt with this issue? I've asked a few friends and none of them had ever had this come up.