So annoyed with my family lately...Anyone else's kiddo repeat a grade?
So my son has some learning disabilities, a slight speech delay, fine motor skill delay, SPD, and possibly ADHD but that hasn't been diagnosed yet, it's just hanging out there when I talk to his doctor, behaviour therapist or psychologist. He will be 6yrs old at the end of June. Because he is so immature and is slightly behind the other kids in class, the school psychologist, special education director, principal, my son's teacher, the special education aide that is in class with him at all times, and the behaviour therapist all agree it's best to hold him back in Kindergarten this year instead of push him to 1st grade.
I've been meeting with this team of people once a week since Christmas break. My son has had an aide in class with him since October and has been seeing the therapist and psychologist once a week since November. I figured that this team of people who deal with my son on a day to day basis, and spend a little under half of his waking hours during the week with him would know what they are talking about.
He's very good at reading and math but his handwriting and language skills are behind, his fine motor skills are behind, and he's having problems understanding what's being asked. If the question isn't phrased the "correct" way he won't understand it. He doesn't have any focus or attention span that would be normal for a 5yr old boy, he's too busy counting the table legs in the room to do his work. He flat out told his teacher no he can't color the ladybug picture because the block center wasn't picked up the right way. Some large blocks were in the small block bin. He needs to take multiple sensory breaks during the day to gain a little focus to do his work. That's why the aide is there to help direct him since he has a hard time when it's just the teacher addressing the class as a whole instead of addressing him directly.
So we discussed this over the last month and concluded that we can alter the curriculum and give him harder work if he can do it and needs more challenging work but we can't alter the enviornment of 1st grade. So it would be more beneficial to hold him back now and give him the extra year to mature. He's the social outcast of the classroom at the moment as he goes from kissing and hugging his friends to kicking and hitting them. He is a handful.
Once the decision was made I told my family and every single person went off about how horrible of a mom I am for letting them keep him a 'r--ard', how he's going to become more 'r--arded' because he's being treated like a baby. How this is the worst thing I could ever allow to happen to him, etc. It's pissing me off. I'm doing what I feel is best and would love if they would just support me a bit but no. Instead of doing that they decided to tell me how I'm such an idiot and I'm just allowing him to act out and all he needs is a good smack on the butt to straighten him up. My mom told me that if it was her kid she'd be headed to the board of Education demanding they send him to 1st grade and how could any mother allow her child to be left behind. My brother has taken to calling him 'Rain Man' because of how my son acts. All the complaining in the world doesn't stop them from talking when they think I'm not around or not listening.
I just wish sometimes that they'd friggen get that it's not all sunshine, rainbows and unicorn poop but it's not the end of the world either. It's Kindergarten. Yes, he will be 6yrs old for the whole school year and he will be 7 when it ends but it's not a big deal. Plenty of kids are older or younger depending on their birthdays. I went into Kindergarten at 4yrs old so I was always a younger kid in class. And it was never a big deal. So I don't see how this is. I really just needed to vent about it. They just don't get it and I can't make them understand. It's so irritating.