Should I retain my DD and put her back in the correct grade?
My 6 year old daughter just completed 1st grade. She did pass and was promoted to 2nd grade, but had some struggles along the way. In reading, she is now on grade level. But with math she continues to struggle and is really not on grade level at all.
Her story is......she started K early ( a year before she really should have) at a private school. She's a Sept. birthday and our cutoff here is Sept. 1. So she technically would have had to wait a whole year to start K at the public school. At the time, I didn't want her to miss out a year of learning, so we started her early! I always thought I would just have her do 2 years of K when she moved to Public school, but many convinced me otherwise and so instead she continued on to 1st. Now in hindsight, I feel I made a terrible mistake.
Socially, she was fine. Her closest friends did happen to be the next youngest in the class, but she was fine and blended in quite well. But academically, she was definitely at the bottom of the class in both reading and math. Although in math, her struggles were even more evident!
So now, I have spoken to the school about her situation and I have the opportunity to have her repeat 1st, even though she technically passed. And by repeating, she would be in the correct grade for her age. But I am so hesitant because now she's made friends and she's already been at the school for 1 year. I did talk to my DD about it and asked her how she felt and she actually thought it was a great thing and that she would love to do 1st again! She said she does not want to 2nd grade because she thinks it's going to be too hard. She knows she's young for her grade and I explained to her that if she were to repeat it would be because we were now putting her in the right grade.
So what would you do if this were your child? A part of me wonders whether she'll just catch up with math eventually and be OK if I pushed her on, but another part of me also knows that this may be my only chance to reverse this!