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School Offers to Change Students' Grades If Parents Don't Like Them

Posted by on Jan. 23, 2016 at 8:38 AM
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School Offers to Change Students' Grades If Parents Don't Like Them

School Report Card showing all A Grades

Growing up, do you remember how you felt when it was time for grades to be sent home? Some kids jump for joy, while others either cross their fingers in the hopes that their parents will forget to ask -- or they find some believable way to alter documents. Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island is an all-boys school in New York that's gaining attention for their letter to parents that offers to change their children's report cards.

Wait, I'm sorry ... come again?

By the look of this letter, school officials at Yeshiva Ketana want to keep their students' self-esteem intact -- even if it means creating another version of children's report cards with "higher grades."

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In case it's hard to read, here's what the letter says:

Dear Parents,

Enclosed you will find your son's report card for the first semester. Please note that report cards are only one indication of how your son is doing. After you review it carefully, feel free to contact your son's Rebbe, teacher or the administration to discuss any of your concerns.

This report card is an opportunity to praise your son for his areas of strength, encourage him to keep up his fine efforts and to improve any areas of weakness. We are especially proud of our students who were recognized for their fine behavior.

Since our goal is to share accurate information with the parents, and not to discourage or hurt a student, great discretion must be used before allowing your child to view his report card. Certainly, report cards should not be seen by students without parental permission and guidance. If after receiving the enclosed report card, you would like us to develop a second version of this report card for your son with higher grades, please call [...]

Looking forward to continued Nachas from our children [...]

... Um, yeah ...

Soo let me get this straight: Students at this school aren't supposed to open their own report cards (with their own grades) without parental guidance, and moms and dads can request the school to make a new report card -- with higher grades?

Have we really entered a day and age where coddling is the preferred method of teaching our children?

How on earth is that supposed to teach our children about the real world? Sorry, but in life -- including that expensive place called college -- you can't go back to your professor or employer and say, "Hey, you know what? I think I need higher marks than what I got. I don't like what I received. Please change it ... 'kay, thanks."

What?!

Listen, I agree that grades aren't always a reflection of a student's aptitude or academic excellence. Some people (myself included) aren't great test takers. Some people (myself included) struggle with certain subjects, even if they study around the clock, make detailed note cards, and hire a tutor. And there are some with conditions that can make learning a little more challenging.

Here's my "keep it real" moment for the day. I bombed my SATs. I took those suckers twice, and got a lower score after my dad hired a personal tutor (thankfully, I still got into the university that I wanted). It's not that I was slacking off, or that I'm dumb. Certain testing formats and I don't agree with each other. That, however, didn't mean I received any bonus points for trying, or a higher score in case I was in my feelings.

While I was a pretty good student (I got mostly As and Bs), there were struggle classes, like anything science-based, that made me feel like a loser. My parents knew I was trying my hardest and getting help -- and if my best was a C+, dammit, they still took me out to Red Lobster (growing up, that was our thing), because they knew I gave it my all.

Yes, grades aren't everything. But sorry, that doesn't mean schools should start lying to children by giving them a higher grade than they earned. It's a false reality that, sadly, will set kids up for a very rude awakening.

I'm sending you back to the drawing board on this one. It's a little nuts!

What do you think of this policy?

by on Jan. 23, 2016 at 8:38 AM
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mcginnisc
by Claire on Jan. 23, 2016 at 8:56 AM

That's odd... I've never heard of a school offering to change a child's grade if a parent is not happy. 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

maxswolfsuit
by Max on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:08 AM
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I kind of see where they are coming from. They don't want a struggling student who is working hard to feel discouraged by bad grades. It's hard for a child who is really far behind to understand that it takes a long time to catch up. So if they are doing the best they can and working really hard their grades may still be low. I have ESE students work their butts of for Cs while kids with very IQs can make As and Bs with much less effort. It can be frustrating when a child realizes no matter how hard they try they just can't do as well as their peers. 

One thing I do is not put a D or F on a students paper when it's a situation like this. When I know a student worked really hard on something but they just haven't mastered the skill yet I put the number grade but not the letter. The student still knows, but I hope psychologically it's not as hard to take. 

The way I read the letter it doesn't seem like they will actually change the grade itself. But make another version of the report card where effort is reflected more than mastery so parents can share that one with the kids.

To be clear, I do not agree it.  I think older students need to be realistic about their performance. And with lots of communication I am able to successfully encourage kids who are still earning bad grades. Kids don't automatically understand why their effort doesn't automatically get them As and Bs, but they certainly can when they are actively tracking their own learning. 

For younger kids I don't see why the school doesn't just opt to do something other than letter grades if this is their concern. 

So I don't think they're going about it the right way. But I do think they have a valid point.

mjande4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:10 AM

I have no printable words for this. 😒

mom2jessnky
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:17 AM
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Shit I can't get my kid's school to fix her grade and it's the teacher's mistake...

mcginnisc
by Claire on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:22 AM


Quoting mom2jessnky:

Shit I can't get my kid's school to fix her grade and it's the teacher's mistake...

It's *not* funny, but your comment made me giggle since I read it in a completely sarcastic tone in my head. 

I thought of you when I read this...

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

Linda_Runs
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:29 AM

That is a total new one on me.  If I think a project grade was not fair, sure I might intervene and talk with the teacher, but changing a grade just because parent is not happy with it is not helping the child at all.  Plus, it erodes the entire educational system.

mom2jessnky
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:31 AM

I wonder if Cafe Michelle thought of me when posting this. ;) LOL.

Quoting mcginnisc:


Quoting mom2jessnky:

Shit I can't get my kid's school to fix her grade and it's the teacher's mistake...

It's *not* funny, but your comment made me giggle since I read it in a completely sarcastic tone in my head. 

I thought of you when I read this...


steelcrazy
by Emerald Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:40 AM
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banging head into wall*sigh*

Blackburn3
by Member on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:42 AM
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Unbelievable, I have no words right now. So let me get this straight now we can add lying to our children is okay as long as we are coddling our children. Wow just wow I am so scared what this generation are going to turn out like.
mcginnisc
by Claire on Jan. 23, 2016 at 9:44 AM
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Quoting mom2jessnky:

I wonder if Cafe Michelle thought of me when posting this. ;) LOL.

Quoting mcginnisc:


Quoting mom2jessnky:

Shit I can't get my kid's school to fix her grade and it's the teacher's mistake...

It's *not* funny, but your comment made me giggle since I read it in a completely sarcastic tone in my head. 

I thought of you when I read this...

Ha ha...it's possible. 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

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