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My son is 8 in 2nd grade. He has missed 7 days of school. All for illnesses. (Strep throat twice, a severe sinus infection, and stomach flu). I just got a letter in the mail saying if he misses 2 more days the school will be contacting a truancy officer... O.o What do I do if he gets sick again? He has 3 months of school left... What will trauncy officer do?

by on Feb. 14, 2018 at 6:50 PM
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by Member on Feb. 15, 2018 at 12:21 PM
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I don't know what state all of you are in but I have the same issue with my daughter's attendance.  I got a letter from the school last week telling me that if she misses anymore school that they would be placing me with a truancy officer.  In our state they go by hours now.  And at the beginning of the year and even in this letter from the school district that the student can't miss so many hours regardless if they have a doctors excuse or other legitimate excuse or not they don't count them. 

Well I do not believe in having my kids miss school because they need to go to learn from the teachers because with this common core curriculumn it can get hard to help them with their homework as I was not taught with that stupid stuff.... sorry just my opinion......... but I WILL NOT send my kids to school sick to infect anyone elses kids and besides what amount of learning are they really doing if they are sitting at a desk feeling like crap or having a fever. 

I mean this year has been horrible as the flu is going around really bad here and strep throat.  My kids have had strep throat 5 times since school started.  And each time my kids missed school for this they had doctors notes excusing them from school and I made sure they made up the work they missed when they were out.  And I believe they were getting sick from others sending their kids to school sick because when they had any significant days off of school either due to snow days or holidays my kids were better and doing fine and then they went back to school and 2 days later they were sick again. 

When I got this letter from the school board about the truancy I went right in there and told them right there that I don't give a rats ass about what they threaten me with, if my kid is sick and I take them to the doctor and their doctor tells me to keep them home because they have a fever or are contagious I will keep them home and if the schools don't like it they can kiss my ass.  Go ahead and try to get me in trouble with the authorities.  I will hire a lawyer and sue your asses because not only would I be putting my kids in even bigger harm of getting even sicker going to school sick but my kids would be getting other kids sick and I couldn't in good conscience do that to others.  My kids health and safety comes before all else. 

And believe me when I say it isn't like I want to keep them home and miss school cuz on the contrary I would much rather them be in school because #1 I hate having to deal with all the extra make up work I have to help them with in making up for missing because it comes home with them when they return and never have any directions on the papers or examples because as I said they are using this damn common core crap that is messed up and I wasn't taught this idiotic way......#2 When they are home sick I don't seem to accomplish much of anything other than taking care of them and little things.. I get so behind on what I need to do .......... #3 and heck when they are in school that is my time to not only do what I need to do around here but to have some peace and quiet from the endless bickering and to recharge myself to be able to make it through the nightly routine. 

by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2018 at 9:47 PM

We're allowed a max of 7 absences a semester, with a total of 10 for the school year. When ds2 was in 3rd grade, he had an unusual year with being sick a lot, plus an eye surgery. He ended up missing 13 days that year. We never got a letter.

As long as you have doctor's notes for all your ds's absences, I wouldn't worry about it. A lot of the time, those first letters are just a "we are required to do this" formality. If they want a response, send copies of the dr notes. 


by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2018 at 10:35 PM

I have to go to truancy court every year. And every time they just say okay and see you next time. As long as you have the Dr notes it's fine. It's aggrivating for sure but the letters are almost always something that's automatically going out. 

Here if they miss 5 days unexcused or 9 days total you go to truancy court. By December mine had missed 12 days already, 10 for dr appointments and 2 because he was sick. They tried telling me to schedule the appointments after school but after I explained they were specialist apointments out of town and that wasn't an option they dropped it. The big kicker in it all is if they are tardy (meaning late to school or signed out early) more than 4 times they get detention so if I scheduled later appontments and checked him out early he would get punished for it. I've questioned the logic of why they'd rather have the kid not be there at all than leave an hour early if attendace was so important and so far, after 2 years, no one at the school board has been able to give me a reasonable answer to explain it. 

by Member on Feb. 25, 2018 at 4:23 PM

Last year I got a letter they were going to suspend my now daughter if she had any more unexcused absences. I just kinda rolled my eyes and threw it away. It made 0 sense to me and highly doubted that they would suspend a 2nd grader who is a 0 behavioral issue. 

by New Member on Feb. 26, 2018 at 8:56 AM
I'm with you!

Quoting PinkButterfly66:

Then I would be contacting the school and demanding to know why you were sent the letter.  I'd throw the ball back in their court.  Someone is being lazy and not doing their job and sending the letter out to all homes whether the absences were excused or not.  

Quoting Nicholy10:

Yes, every single one

Quoting PinkButterfly66:

Does the child have a doctor's note for the missed days?

by Member on Feb. 26, 2018 at 12:35 PM

Quoting HotJerZMama: Bring a doctors note. Would they rather you send him in sick and infect everyone?

by Member on Mar. 6, 2018 at 5:05 AM

I ran into this problem when my daughter had to miss school because of being sick. If your child turns the Dr notes to the teacher make sure the teacher turns them into the office and when the school has to do an appeal they have to take the Dr notes into consideration. Also as one PP said get copies if you can't make them yourself see if the Dr's office can help you obtain copies just in case it does go to court.

by Silver Member on Mar. 9, 2018 at 1:06 PM

There is next to no truancy enforcement here.  The school got rid of truancy representatives and put it on the student services counselors.  They turn it over to CPS who now look after truancy.  

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