Part 2: When was the last time you...?

This is a good one! I don't think a Mamma ever stops planning and fretting over her children. My baby is gonna be 25 in July. I still plan for her. LOL! Mind you, she doesn't always agree with my plans and as she's grown older, she lets me know when I have done entirely too much planning. These days I don't make her supper anymore. She or her husband do the cooking in their house. Our contact is by cell phone and pc. I have plans to visit her real soon though. But, even with 2300 miles between us, I never stop planning and fretting.

We try to get alone time once a month.  This is our date night.  We usually go out for dinner, hang out at a bookstore, go shopping or just rent a video.  It's a nice way to get away from the kids without having the burden of "doing something special"  since just having quiet time is special to me.

Yes, I think I'm beginning to understand that! After years of making my parents worry about me because I was a rebellious teenager and moved far away as an adult, I might be seeing a distant glimpse of karma. My son is only 9 months old and I'm already freaking out about the day he leaves for college (or the circus. Who knows what he'll do?)

Quoting RazingWrong:

This is a good one! I don't think a Mamma ever stops planning and fretting over her children. My baby is gonna be 25 in July. I still plan for her. LOL! Mind you, she doesn't always agree with my plans and as she's grown older, she lets me know when I have done entirely too much planning. These days I don't make her supper anymore. She or her husband do the cooking in their house. Our contact is by cell phone and pc. I have plans to visit her real soon though. But, even with 2300 miles between us, I never stop planning and fretting.

not ever. they are always in the front of my mind, no matter what i am doing, even if they are spending the night at gramma's.

Quoting MamiOfTwins1303:

We try to get alone time once a month.  This is our date night.  We usually go out for dinner, hang out at a bookstore, go shopping or just rent a video.  It's a nice way to get away from the kids without having the burden of "doing something special"  since just having quiet time is special to me.

I really like that sentence. I dread beginning date night just because there's this level of expectation; romance, connection, etc...Some days my husband just aren't on the same planet. God forbid that should fall on date night. Too much pressure! So, I like your advice. Was it advice? Well, I'm using it so now it is ;)

Carrie

Friday night, the very first time my DH and I ever got to go out to a club since Hayden was born.  We danced for hours!  It was very cool.  *Did drink, but not heavily*  Then afterwards, though, I was asking DH, "Did that make me a bad mother?"  He was like, "No, it doesn't make you a bad mother to go out and have a good time and momentarily stop worrying and thinking about your child."  LOL  So no more guilt about it.  Very lucky for DH.  :D

Okay. Here's my humiliating response. When I started watching "Gossip Girl" over the summer.

Let me just say that I never ever watch soap opera type shows or even network tv but for some reason that ridiculous show about unrealistic rich teens doing horrible things actually got my mind off of things for a while. It probably was just killing brain cells.

And now the even more embarrassing. I still watch it on occasion. I simultaneously hate it and adore it. It's sick really.

Other than that, I never stop thinking about my son. I have to admit that I have not yet been able to part with him overnight. My family thinks this is a huge problem I need to get past. I think I will in due time and I'm not letting them rush me. He lived in me as long as he's been outside of me! Give a girl a minute!

It's true, we never stop planning and doing for our children.  I recently did do something for myself but I went into planning overdrive to prepare for my 3 days away.  I became a certified Child Passenger Safety Technician in September.  Hmm, just realizing as I'm typing that it wasn't just "for me", it was for the safety of my kids and other kids in this world too, ha ha! 

Anyway, as hard as it was for me to leave that first night, it became so clear to me that I need those special moments away to be "me" and to take care of my needs so I can in turn take care of my family.  I did think about my kids those days when I had the time but I knew because I had planned and prepped things for my hubby and kids they could survive without me and me without them even for a mere 3 days.  I sure enjoyed my time away but after 30 hours of class in 3 days, I was ready to return to my crazy family and unorganized house.

Great question by the way!     

Quoting momof2luvsshoes:

II became a certified Child Passenger Safety Technician in September.  Hmm, just realizing as I'm typing that it wasn't just "for me", it was for the safety of my kids and other kids in this world too, ha ha! 

Well, it may not have been completely for you, but it's really admirable!

Nice answer.