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Be careful how you judge...

looliemom

Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:10 PM by looliemom
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I've really been saddened recently with reading a lot of posts bashing moms for getting assistance. No one knows all of the different reasons why people have to go on assistance, and here's a reminder.

Please read this and possibly remember it the next time you want to judge someone else.


 Never judge someone...
 
 
'Some people!' snorted a man standing some distance behind me in the long line at the grocery store.
 
'You would think the manager would pay attention and open another line, 'said a woman. I looked to the front of the line to see what the hold up was and saw a well dressed, young woman, trying to get the machine to accept her credit card. No matter how many times she swiped it, the machine kept rejecting it.
 
'It's one of them welfare card things. Damn people need to get a job like everyone else,' said the man standing behind me. The young woman turned around to see who had made the comment.   'It was me,' he said, pointing to himself.
 
The young lady's face began to change expression. Almost in tears, she dropped the welfare card onto the counter and quickly walked out of the store. Everyone in the checkout line watched as she began running to her car. Never looking back, she got in and drove away.
 
Several minutes later a young man walked into the store. He went up to the cashier and asked if she had seen the woman. After describing her, the cashier told him that she had run out of the store, got into her car, and drove away.
 
'Why would she do that?' asked the man. Everyone in the line looked around at the fellow who had made the statement.   'I made a stupid comment about the welfare card she was using.  Something I shouldn't have said. I'm sorry,' said the man.
 
'Well, that's bad, real bad, in fact.  Her brother was killed in Afghanistan two years ago. He had three young children and she has taken on that responsibility. She's twenty years old, single, and now has three children to support,' he said in a very firm voice.
 
'I'm really truly sorry. I didn't know,' he replied, shaking both his hands about.
 
The young man asked, 'Are these paid for?' pointing to the shopping cart full of groceries. 'It wouldn't take her card,' the clerk told him.
 
'Do you know where she lives?' asked the man who had made the comment.
 
'Yes, she goes to our church.'
 
'Excuse me,' he said as he made his way to the front of the line. He pulled out his wallet, took out his credit card and told the cashier, 'Please use my card. PLEASE!' The clerk took his credit card and began to ring up the young woman's groceries.
 
Hold on,' said the gentleman. He walked back to his shopping cart and began loading his own groceries onto the belt to be included. 'Come on people. We got three kids to help raise!' he told everyone in line.
 
Everyone began to place their groceries onto the fast moving belt. A few customers began bagging the food and placing it into separate carts. 'Go back and get two big turkeys,' yelled a heavyset woman, as she looked at the man. 'NO,' yelled the man.    Everyone stopped dead in their tracks. The entire store be came quiet for several seconds. 'Four turkeys,' yelled the man. Everyone began laughing and went back to work.
 
When all was said and done, the man paid a total of $1,646.57 for the groceries. He then walked over to the side,  pulled out his check book, and began writing a check using the bags of dog food piled near the front of the store for a writing surface. He turned around and handed the check to the young man.
 
'She will need a freezer and a few other things as well,' he told the man.
 
The young man looked at the check and said, 'This is really very generous of you.'
 
'No,' said the man. 'Her brother was the generous one.'
 
Everyone in the store had been observing the odd commotion and began to clap.  And I drove home that day feeling very American.
 
We live in the Land of the free, because of the Brave!!! Remember our Troops of Yesterday and Today!!!
 
A great example of why we should be kind and patient.
 
Kindness is the language the blind can see and the deaf can hear.

Never judge someone...until you have walked a mile in their shoes.

The only time you should look down on someone is if you're trying to help them up.

May God's many blessings continue to be with you  -  ALWAYS!!!

MAY THIS KEEP GOING.... IT MAY OPEN A LOT OF EYES, HOPEFULLY HEARTS, AND KEEP SOME MOUTHS SHUT.

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bkristine_00

by bkristine_00 on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:16 PM

very nice!!  my mom was on assistance for a while when we were young.  not because she was to lazy to work.  but because she was trying to raise 5 children on a single parent income while trying to put her self thru school.  she was working full time and going to school full time, and the child support wasnt enough to wipe our butts with.  she did what she had to do to  keep her kids feed and in a home.  shes an amazing woman who wasnt to stubborn to ask for help when we really needed it. i am thankful that the system is there for those who need it.

i do think though that there are people out there who are capable of working and earning an income and are just taking advantage of the programs out there when the money and food could be going to someone who really needs it.   that much i dont agree with.  if you can work you should.  and if you still need help, even with a full time job then do what you have to do to keep your family afloat.  but dont sit at home soaking up welfare because your to lazy to get a job.  JMO

Twiseman

by Twiseman on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:25 PM

awww, it made me cry

KBSSJ5

by KBSSJ5 on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:28 PM

That was an awesome story!

coconuts26

by coconuts26 on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:30 PM

thanks for posting this, beautiful story!!

LaTanyaL

by LaTanyaL on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:34 PM


Quoting Twiseman:

awww, it made me cry


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mothersweetness

by mothersweetness on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:40 PM

that was great thanks for posting it

 

 

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ms_mommy_sue

by ms_mommy_sue on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:43 PM

IM BAWLING!  I am on assistance, raising a special needs son, and my daughter, luckily my father allows us to live here, so I have a safe, secure envorinment for my children. I can't work due to the ways of my son until he is in a program and well their dad hightailed it after i caught him cheating, drinking and beating on me, and divorced him he is of no help. I have had help from anonymous people, not like that, but hek that gallon of milk that was on my  porch after the doorbell rang, always helped. Sometimes I wish people would ask someone why they need help , instead of just assuming we are lazy, drug addicts looking for a handout! I thank you for posting this, and May God(or whomever it is you trust) Bless you and YOur family.

 

DazeDelights

by DazeDelights on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:49 PM

me too!

Quoting Twiseman:

awww, it made me cry


 

 

jacobsmommy122

by jacobsmommy122 on Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:52 PM

I wanna hear those ten million things!!! this is supposed to be a good post and to get everyone to stop judging others and your on here saying that its not true? how would you know? were you there? did you make it up? Im not trying to be mean but this is the reason why alot of posts are nothing but argueing. people start stuff. why couldnt you just say great story??? why do you have to say something negative about it before you say something positive? I just dont understand thats all. please explain

Quoting Kerfuffle:

I can find ten million things wrong with this that make the story itself untrue....  however...  the idea is still the same. You shouldn't judge because you never know






 




 




 




looliemom

by looliemom on Jul. 22, 2008 at 10:42 PM

Thanks for backing me up with this. I don't now if the story is true or not, it was sent to me, and I felt it was important enough to share. It obviously went over one of the minds it was supposed to help open.

I do know of one story that was true, where a mom was buying ice cream, soda, and a cake with food stamps; and was confronted by a lady on line with her. The lady was pissed off that her "Tax Dollars" were going to buy junk food, made the comment, and moved to another line. The woman ended up in tears, and explained TO ME, that her daughter was in the hospital with Lukemia, and it was her 5th and last birthday; because the doctors were only predicting she would live for a few more weeks.

I know THAT story was true, because I was the cashier that was helping her.

Quoting jacobsmommy122:

I wanna hear those ten million things!!! this is supposed to be a good post and to get everyone to stop judging others and your on here saying that its not true? how would you know? were you there? did you make it up? Im not trying to be mean but this is the reason why alot of posts are nothing but argueing. people start stuff. why couldnt you just say great story??? why do you have to say something negative about it before you say something positive? I just dont understand thats all. please explain

Quoting Kerfuffle:

I can find ten million things wrong with this that make the story itself untrue....  however...  the idea is still the same. You shouldn't judge because you never know



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