our marriage is over...UPDATED MondAY

My DH and I have been having lots of problems over the past couple of months. I am finally throwing in the towel, I have always said that marriage is forever, but I cannot tolerate this crap any longer. I do love him, I love him more than anything in this world, and we have had some great times, he has been here for me through thick and thin.  But he has started smoking weed (not bashing anyone who smokes, it just isn't something I want around my child, or in my car) and now he is drinking alot too (& when he drinks, he will drink so much that he starts calling people he hasn't talked to in forever, he will go outside and piss when our neighbors are outside, and then he will pass out in his own vomit, so I end up having to take care of him). All these things I just do not want my daughter around!

He also talks to me like I'm garbage, he will yell at me over stupid crap, and then he will apologize but it still hurts my feelings. He orders me around, telling me what I need to do, and it drives me nuts because I am an adult, and should be responsible for my own decisions.  I HAVE talked to him about all this, but when he said he was going to quit smoking he just did it behind my back, and his attitude hasn't changed at all. Counseling is out of the question because he doesn't want to take off from work to do it (I am pregnant, and he won't even take off in a couple of weeks for my first ultrasound although I know they would let him).

So I am fixing to find a job, put Madelyn in daycare, and get out! It's going to be tough, but I know it is what i have to do to protect my child......I am just really hurt right now, and I know it will be tough, but I can't live this way anymore....

UPDATE: Well, I did leave Daniel, and went to stay at a friends house for a night, last night he called me and wanted me to come over to the house so we could talk, so I did and left Maddie with my friend. He said that he wil let me drug test him, find a local church with meetings on weekends (that is honestly the only time he gets off hardly) and he promises to quit doing EVERYTHING because in his words, He is an "addict" (he gets addicted to/uses anything, he use to be really bad on all kinds of drugs before we dated).

A part of me is scared that this will not work, or that he will go back to the same thing, but he said that he does realize he has been treating me crappy lately, and that me leaving made him realize that I do not feel obligated to stay with him, so he knows he is going to have to straighten up or I will leave.

Thankyou everyone for your encouraging words, and please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers, we would really like to make things work out with us because we are a family and have a daughter together and another child on the way, and I really love him, but he swears up and down that he can't quit this stuff without me here to help him. Any other suggestions on how I can keep him straight would be great, since I am skeptical about the  whole drugtesting thing. Thanks again everyone!