im thinkin of leaving my hubby 4 a while...

Wow, Im sorry! While I dont think leaving is the answer, you guys REALLY need to sit down and talk! And while i am usually not for ultimatiums this looks like a prime example for one!! If you are ready to leave then sit down and talk to him, tell him if things dont change you will have to leave!! Then do it if they dont, otherwise he'll think he can walk all over you!! Tell him you need help and cant do it alone! I mean, whats gonna happen when you go on maternity leave.. He needs to man up and get your family taken care of!!

wow, ive got to say you must be a pretty patient person to handle all his crap. i wouldnt havent taken it, really its great he's a volunteer firefighter but that should be something he does on the side if he's really passionate about it. your family should come first before others and if the family isnt being supported in a proper way he needs to see that and think atleast about his kids! come on like he cant expect someone to do all the work and supply for him and the kids and still have them to come home to.

sit him down and tell him if he cares for the family and wants food nd housing for them he needs to do some paying work. tell him your fin with the volunteering but it needs to be a part time/ weekend thing not permanent. let him know you cant possibly bring enough money home by yourself, especailly after you have that child! theres going to e a few weeks where you guys will be suffering if things are that bad and you cant afford that with a new baby to pay for.

good luck! stay strong.

ive tried talking to him and he says that the main reason he is so distant is because im bitchy....well i still have a 2 yr old that gets up at night sometimes every 2 hrs...do you think he gets up with him? no!! plus being preggo im tired all the time, i cant sleep well, and i dont get any help from him!

im just so frusterated i have no idea what to do...i do completly agree with you....i dont think walking away would help. i just dont know what else to do....i think sometimes thats what it takes, you gotta have time to miss someone to see what you really have.

Quoting Skys_mommy86:

Wow, Im sorry! While I dont think leaving is the answer, you guys REALLY need to sit down and talk! And while i am usually not for ultimatiums this looks like a prime example for one!! If you are ready to leave then sit down and talk to him, tell him if things dont change you will have to leave!! Then do it if they dont, otherwise he'll think he can walk all over you!! Tell him you need help and cant do it alone! I mean, whats gonna happen when you go on maternity leave.. He needs to man up and get your family taken care of!!

Leave him... its clear he doesnt care anymore and it sounds like he may have cheated, cause you dont have other girls pictures and numbers for no reason

thank you!! i was hoping that i wasnt just flying off the handle for nothing. i am really just tired of being walked all over. i could undertand if this is something that he really wanted, but hes goin on 30! if it was something he really dreamed of he would have grad high school and put his time and effort into it. but the only thing i ever heard him say was that he liked the lights....you dont become a fireman because you like the LIGHTS!! if he was into saving someone he would have done something much sooner....like me being in school 5 yrs!! you know....im just sick of trying!

Quoting kahmommy:

wow, ive got to say you must be a pretty patient person to handle all his crap. i wouldnt havent taken it, really its great he's a volunteer firefighter but that should be something he does on the side if he's really passionate about it. your family should come first before others and if the family isnt being supported in a proper way he needs to see that and think atleast about his kids! come on like he cant expect someone to do all the work and supply for him and the kids and still have them to come home to.

sit him down and tell him if he cares for the family and wants food nd housing for them he needs to do some paying work. tell him your fin with the volunteering but it needs to be a part time/ weekend thing not permanent. let him know you cant possibly bring enough money home by yourself, especailly after you have that child! theres going to e a few weeks where you guys will be suffering if things are that bad and you cant afford that with a new baby to pay for.

good luck! stay strong.

tell him if he wants to spend so much time at the fire station to just do it full time as a job at least then he would get paid for it and have city benefits. Secondly i blocked my space my computer and told hubby it wasn't allowed sorry but it causes to many divorces the only thing that place is god for is underage hookers and pedophiles for the most part and you cant get away from anybody on there so i blocked it. Its shady if he is getting pics sent of other chicks and lying to you like that so only you know what to do about that situation since i don't personally know how often or any of the back story there. but i would def tell him to go be full time firefighter because there is no sense in wasting his time there when he could be spending it with you and his children if he isn't getting anything from it besides a chance to hang out with the boys. either way good luck.

thank you...very well said! i have no idea what im gonna do....hes been texting me and all i have been saying is that i need some time to think of what i need to do thats good for me and the kids. i will not stay with someone just because the kids.....thanks for your comment!!

Quoting prego7386:

tell him if he wants to spend so much time at the fire station to just do it full time as a job at least then he would get paid for it and have city benefits. Secondly i blocked my space my computer and told hubby it wasn't allowed sorry but it causes to many divorces the only thing that place is god for is underage hookers and pedophiles for the most part and you cant get away from anybody on there so i blocked it. Its shady if he is getting pics sent of other chicks and lying to you like that so only you know what to do about that situation since i don't personally know how often or any of the back story there. but i would def tell him to go be full time firefighter because there is no sense in wasting his time there when he could be spending it with you and his children if he isn't getting anything from it besides a chance to hang out with the boys. either way good luck.