What would you do for your daughter?

i'd find some other friends for her. if those girls are being mean to her i wouldn't make her be around them.

IDK I am in the exact same situation with my DD. She's only in 1st rade. I hate to see what comes later down the road.

Firstly just because you guys are friends doesnt mean your kids will be. secondly there are going to be a lot of people who are goin to pick on her because of her personality shes going to have to toughen up and defend herself because you're not always going to be there to protect her

The longer you hold it in the more you wiull resent the other moms. I would mention the problem and maybe compare notes. THe other mom might know more about the issue that you don't. I would not keep my mouth shut it just makes for hard feelins!!!

Quoting Teeshann:

i'd find some other friends for her. if those girls are being mean to her i wouldn't make her be around them.

I've told her that, but she's a follower and shy so it's hard to make new friends.  She keeps making up with this girl and then having it out two days later.  We haven't done anything as a group with our kids in a long time.  Last weekend though we were at a playday rodeo for the kids and those girls had her crying by an hour after getting there.  I wanted to yell at their parents, but I also didn't want to make a scene.  UGH it's so frustrating!  I'm also shy and don't understand how someone could be so mean like that.

I think the sink or swim approach has it's time and place, but I don't think this is it.  Teaching someone to stick up for themselves takes more then putting them in a bad position.  Next time you get a chance to show you daughter how to stick up for herself do it!!!! The great thing is you know this is something that is hard for her, so you can help her work through it.  You can also get her to do small things like ordering for herself at a restaurant.  I would get her involved in other activities where she can meet new people. 

Quoting 3TMommyHeather:

You really need to talk to your daughter. She needs to either ignore those Biatches Or stand up to them As long as she keeps hanging out with them she will be picked on.I know it hard , My DD is now 18 and always was picked on, i always stood up for her , ( i have a big mouth when it comes to that stuff) anyway it took her until high school to get sick and tired of it.It really made her somewhat of a recluse ..In JHS a girl was really given it to her, To my surprise and the surprise of the girl my daughter laid into her really telling her off , well now they are best friends, LOL! Sometimes just standing up to your bully just once will clear the air.. On the other hand if i were you those ladies you call friends aren't really friends because they should control their brats , I mean i am sure they see whats going on.. I would drop them they don't deserve you and your daughters friendship.....

Talk to her about what her daughter is doing to your child. Youhave to be able to get it out in the open.

Ok You've brought tears to my eyes.  I guess I was just holding on to long.  MY husband keeps telling me this.  Their daughters act like them and do you really want to be friends with someone like that?  I guess not!  I do think my daughter is good at standing up for herself she just has her moments and it gets harder when it's two against one.  It just all makes me really sad.

Quoting 1rn:

Quoting 3TMommyHeather:

You really need to talk to your daughter. She needs to either ignore those Biatches Or stand up to them As long as she keeps hanging out with them she will be picked on.I know it hard , My DD is now 18 and always was picked on, i always stood up for her , ( i have a big mouth when it comes to that stuff) anyway it took her until high school to get sick and tired of it.It really made her somewhat of a recluse ..In JHS a girl was really given it to her, To my surprise and the surprise of the girl my daughter laid into her really telling her off , well now they are best friends, LOL! Sometimes just standing up to your bully just once will clear the air.. On the other hand if i were you those ladies you call friends aren't really friends because they should control their brats , I mean i am sure they see whats going on.. I would drop them they don't deserve you and your daughters friendship.....

I would talk to the other moms, hell even sit the other girls down and talk to them. If your daughter is telling you what is going on then you know you can believe it, and if the other moms ask, tell her what your daughter said HER daughter did!