what is CIO

yup, they let their babies CRY IT OUT.

not me :)

wow, like actual tears, and their baby is visibly stressed out?!?!? i would never let Alyssa go through that!!!

Quoting SunshineSmiles:

yup, they let their babies CRY IT OUT.

not me :)

For me it depends on the child.  I have two boys.  When we were trying to get the oldest to sleep on his own he would instantly start screaming.  I knew that not a darn thing was wrong other than he didn't want to be in his crib, so yes I would let him scream.  But my 2nd is such an easier sleeper.  He might babble or occassionally fuss, but if he screamed it meant something was wrong, so I'd go check on him.

right that makes sense, i see how in that situation you would let him scream, sounds like he was just trying to get his way how old was he?

Quoting mferruz:

For me it depends on the child. I have two boys. When we were trying to get the oldest to sleep on his own he would instantly start screaming. I knew that not a darn thing was wrong other than he didn't want to be in his crib, so yes I would let him scream. But my 2nd is such an easier sleeper. He might babble or occassionally fuss, but if he screamed it meant something was wrong, so I'd go check on him.

There's a difference between screaming and whining.

I use the CIO method, but I don't let my child scream.  I have three kids and it's worked with all three.  When they were babies I could lay them down and they would go to sleep and that was that.  They learned what their bed was and didn't even fight me on it. 

What I do is after I've changed, fed, burped and everything is taken care of, I lay them down.  If they whine, I'll make sure nothing else needs to be done and let them whine a little.  If it's persistant then I know something else is wrong.  I mean, you know your baby's cry.  If it's a cry that says "I want you to hold me so I can fall asleep on you" I don't do that, if it's another cry where something is wrong or they need something I go get them.

You know your child better than anyone on here, you do what you think is right.  CIO only works if they're just fussy and want to be held all the time, it's a way to teach them to self soothe instead of relying on you for everything.  I know with three kids, I can't just sit around holding babies all day because they don't want to go to sleep without me. 

that makes sense!!

Quoting jillbailey26:

I use the CIO method, but I don't let my child scream. I have three kids and it's worked with all three. When they were babies I could lay them down and they would go to sleep and that was that. They learned what their bed was and didn't even fight me on it.

What I do is after I've changed, fed, burped and everything is taken care of, I lay them down. If they whine, I'll make sure nothing else needs to be done and let them whine a little. If it's persistant then I know something else is wrong. I mean, you know your baby's cry. If it's a cry that says "I want you to hold me so I can fall asleep on you" I don't do that, if it's another cry where something is wrong or they need something I go get them.

You know your child better than anyone on here, you do what you think is right. CIO only works if they're just fussy and want to be held all the time, it's a way to teach them to self soothe instead of relying on you for everything. I know with three kids, I can't just sit around holding babies all day because they don't want to go to sleep without me.

Sometimes my boy is fighting sleep (he's only nine weeks) and he'll fuss, but if I pick him up he fights it harder and winds up so tired and unhappy, rubbing his eyes and red faced, poor kid. :(  But if I let him grumble a moment or two, he drifts right off and wakes up all giggly and grinning.

Now, dumping a kid in the crib because you want to sleep and he/she is screaming blue murder?  Not cool, but I doubt many moms do that.  A little fussing/whining of "I don't wanna go to sleep!" is different, I think.

I let my son CIO. But if he is screaming I will go check on him. If he is screaming I will check on him, if he is fine I will let him scream and if he is still screaming 5 minutes later I will check again. He hardly ever screams anymore because he knows he isn't getting his own way.

My SIL on the other hand when her 10 year old was about 9 months old she was going to let her CIO. She laid her daughter down and went to lay down, her daughter started screaming. She let her scream, didn't go check on her at all. After 2 hours of her daughter screaming she finally went in to check on her. That poor baby was covered in fire ants. My SIL said that you could only see the baby's eyes. The rest of that poor baby was covered on ants getting bit. She was taken to the hospital and now she has to be extremely careful because if she gets bit again she will swell up and could die. This poor little girl wouldn't have such a bad allergy to them if her mom would have gone to check on her instead of letting her scream for 2 hours.

I think that what I let my son do is letting him CIO but I think that it is neglect to not check on them if they are screaming.