At my wits end [ sorry, vent ]

Not too long after my son was born, he wouldn't lay down and I was exhausted.  He would stop crying only when I held him.  I'd feed him and he'd cry if I lay him down.  I had to hod and rock or walk thef floor.  Doctor started changing formula but nothing helped.  Then he said, put him on whole milk and we'll see what happens and if that doens't work, we'll put him on a soybean formula.  Well he took that milk and shut up and was the best baby and kid.  Almost never cried. He was a big baby at birth - 9 lb 3 oz.  and he wans't getting enough nutrition with the atered down formulas.  I don't know that is the the problem, but it might be.  Another could be the colic.  Tummies hurt.  Pats and rubbing tummy help at times. 

You can be so very tired.  Too bad your SO is away now and it doesn't seem fair to you.  Perhaps waiting a bit longer to make the trip and having more money now would be of help to you.  At least you could feel better about yourself.  He should be sending money for the baby.  I'd ask for it if it is his child.  You should have some money coming to help with baby.

Good luck to you.  I hope you have taken her to doctor or called doctor to tell what is happening.  But could be she is just hungry.

Been there, done that, still doing it, but getting easier.

Aj for the longest time wouldnt take his naps.. but when I noticed him getting crabbby Id try to soothe him, give him his bottle, rock him, and let him fall asleep on me, after some time when he was in a 'deep' sleep I was able to put him down in his crib and he sleep from 20 min to an hour or so.. Hes good with naps now, but still a hassle to get to sleep and stay asleep at night, then again he just got his first tooth and prob teething is messing him up again. Good luck mamma, its not easy.

Maybe its gas, try a little mylicon, which is gas relief for infants... or I had to let mine cry it out, i had to lay him down in the crib and just walk away. finally after 4 days he just went to sleep.. I know its hard being alone, but as your little one gets older it does get better.

If you ever need an ear or a shoulder or just wana chat im here, my son is 5 months and man he is a handfull.

She's WAY too young to be drinking cow milk, and I'm breastfeeding so she isn't on formula, so switching formulas won't help. Already been to the doctor, and although she may have colic [ Her father and aunt were also colicky ], I still wish there was some way of getting her to sleep. I fear I'll nod off while waiting for the cab back home after an appointment, I'm lacking so much sleep. She won't even fall asleep when I'm holding her. I'll watch her start to nod off, then force herself back awake.

No way would post-poning the trip possibly make things better on me. I've cried every single day since I had to leave my SO due to visa issues. He's paying for EVERYTHING to bring both of us back, and it's already going to be over $7k, so how can you possibly expect him to be sending money on top of it? I'm not trying to bite your head off, but seriously, can't you see the importance of a family being together? Can't you see how much easier it would be on me, the baby, and my SO once we're living together? Not only that, all of his family will be there as well, and our friends. I wouldn't be alone to take care of the LO anymore. I'd have plenty of help. I guess I just don't see the point of waiting.

Poor kid is so cranky, and so am I :(

We had the same thing happen with our first. Ended up being colic. Plus he wasn't getting enough food from me. Switched to a bottle. It was still absolutely horrible. There were a few ways I could get him to sleep and get the most sleep I possibly could. First, I'd get everything ready (including peeing) to feed him. Then I'd feed him and he'd end up napping right on me. It was really the only sleep I got. He would sleep from one feeding until the next. But it was only between these two feedings he'd sleep and let me sleep. Other times I had to put him in a sling and walk him up and down the street for what seemed forever. I'd also have to put him in his car seat and drive him on the expressway just to get him to quiet down.

I wish you the best, but also know that there is light at the end of this dark tunnel.

Thank you, I appreciate it :) I know I have tried letting her cry it out [ Never longer than 10 minutes ], but I can't when my housemate is home. Granted he's gone for the weekend so I guess it won't hurt if I absolutely need to. Hopefully she'll fall asleep :( She needs it just as badly as I do

Quoting franklynnsmom:

Maybe its gas, try a little mylicon, which is gas relief for infants... or I had to let mine cry it out, i had to lay him down in the crib and just walk away. finally after 4 days he just went to sleep.. I know its hard being alone, but as your little one gets older it does get better.

If you ever need an ear or a shoulder or just wana chat im here, my son is 5 months and man he is a handfull.

Thanks :) I know she might have colic simply because her father and aunt also had it. I've tried letting her sleep on me after eating, but it only seems to last 10 minutes, then she forces herself awake again :(

It's gotten so bad that I find myself feeding her while laying in my bed, and I end up passing out with her in my arms

Quoting kjluther:

We had the same thing happen with our first. Ended up being colic. Plus he wasn't getting enough food from me. Switched to a bottle. It was still absolutely horrible. There were a few ways I could get him to sleep and get the most sleep I possibly could. First, I'd get everything ready (including peeing) to feed him. Then I'd feed him and he'd end up napping right on me. It was really the only sleep I got. He would sleep from one feeding until the next. But it was only between these two feedings he'd sleep and let me sleep. Other times I had to put him in a sling and walk him up and down the street for what seemed forever. I'd also have to put him in his car seat and drive him on the expressway just to get him to quiet down.

I wish you the best, but also know that there is light at the end of this dark tunnel.

I do see the importance of family being together, but I also see the value of a healthy mommy. I ended up an inpatient in a psych ward for post partum depression for a week because I did all of it by myself and let myself go completely. So I also see the importance of him maybe sending you a little money to maybe hire a babysitter or someone to help with the little stuff like the dishes so you can get a nap. Even if it's once or twice a week. It is worth it. Do you have any neighbors that can watch your baby at your place while you catch a cat nap or grab a hot shower?

Quoting DalmatianStars:

She's WAY too young to be drinking cow milk, and I'm breastfeeding so she isn't on formula, so switching formulas won't help. Already been to the doctor, and although she may have colic [ Her father and aunt were also colicky ], I still wish there was some way of getting her to sleep. I fear I'll nod off while waiting for the cab back home after an appointment, I'm lacking so much sleep. She won't even fall asleep when I'm holding her. I'll watch her start to nod off, then force herself back awake.

No way would post-poning the trip possibly make things better on me. I've cried every single day since I had to leave my SO due to visa issues. He's paying for EVERYTHING to bring both of us back, and it's already going to be over $7k, so how can you possibly expect him to be sending money on top of it? I'm not trying to bite your head off, but seriously, can't you see the importance of a family being together? Can't you see how much easier it would be on me, the baby, and my SO once we're living together? Not only that, all of his family will be there as well, and our friends. I wouldn't be alone to take care of the LO anymore. I'd have plenty of help. I guess I just don't see the point of waiting.

Poor kid is so cranky, and so am I :(

I use to give my little one teething pills. I found mine in Wal-Mart. They work really well. They ar all natural and have chamomille which helps calm nerves.

You said you are breastfeeding?

Are you drinking ANY caffiene at ALL?  I'm a caffiene junky, I"m addicted to Mt. Dew and Sweet tea.  I would sneek one every now and then, and the baby would be up ALL night.  It was worse in the early months, when the baby was up every two hours to nurse, because I was so sleep deprived I couldn't function without it.  think Chocolate, coffee, tea, any sodas......

If all else fails, make sure she's fed, clean and cozy, put her in her crib, turn a radio on, and climb in the shower, for about 15 minutes or so.  Hopefully, when you get out, she will be asleep.  If not, well, atleast you will be super clean, and will have had a few minutes to your self.