Question???? Help!

I know what you are talking about. I couldn't have said it better myself.  It's just a strange feeling I get now and then....

wow...my name is jennifer too and i am feeling the same way!!  i'm surrounded by friends who seem to have marriages full of love and affection, but we're just....not.  i spend a lot of time wanting that feeling of being loved by a guy...my husband isn't mean to me but you know what i mean.  the biggest thing i worry about is the fact that my girls are growing up to think that our marriage is the way a marriage is supposed to be, but its totally not.  we dont fight and yell at each other, but we don't hug, kiss, or any of that lovey stuff.  i do know how you feel.

i went trough a rush of emotions similar to this not to long ago...... i kept thinking about being with other ppl and such and what it woulda been like if i hadnt married him.... i think it was only cuz we were having a hard time and this is the longest relationship ive ever had (over 2 years with my hubby) and before i ALWAYS had something new within a few months after the newness went away i didnt know how to feel.... just wait it out talk it over with a close friend confidentially and dont make any rash decisions... i love my husband more than anything besides my son so it was a fluke for about a week and i felt sooo guilty .. but im glad i never said anything or DID anything.... my husband is a good man and my rock, just evaluate these feelings and try to analyze them hang in there momma good luck :D

Quoting Mama2twins05:

wow...my name is jennifer too and i am feeling the same way!!  i'm surrounded by friends who seem to have marriages full of love and affection, but we're just....not.  i spend a lot of time wanting that feeling of being loved by a guy...my husband isn't mean to me but you know what i mean.  the biggest thing i worry about is the fact that my girls are growing up to think that our marriage is the way a marriage is supposed to be, but its totally not.  we dont fight and yell at each other, but we don't hug, kiss, or any of that lovey stuff.  i do know how you feel.

i know what your talking about... im the same

Wow its amazimg that you'll are thinking while I'm sitting here thinking I may not be the one for him! I truely love him with everything but it seems like he's distancing himself from me. Our relationship on somedays is absolutely wonderful and other it feels like i'm living with someone who is just tolerating me. :(

I know that's the case with me!!! 

I just hope you'll consider that sometimes the relationship isn't great at that moment.   I'd hate for you to leave and regret it later, because it was a bad day or week etc.  I say that 'cause I did leave someone in my past for the same kind of reasons.  NOW, it's years  later, I wish I would have stayed.  He wasn't what I thought was my soul mate, but looking back, may have been the better choice! 

I definitely would do this but truthfully I have felt this way for years now.. it will not go away. I tried my hardest to fall in love with him for years, but I now know it is not possible, I don't feel we were meant to be together. He is a great man and has a good heart, but everyday I feel I deserve more, I deserve that moment of... OMG... this feels amazing! I have never truly felt that with him :( Sad to say but true... We are not married even though we have been together 6 years, so there would be no legal issues except the girls which I do not think we would have to go to court for that. I have evaluated them over and over.. and now at this point I don't think it will ever come to where I want to marry him or spend the rest of my life with him :( What do you think? Thank you sooo much for the encouraging words!

Quoting liamsmom31908:

i went trough a rush of emotions similar to this not to long ago...... i kept thinking about being with other ppl and such and what it woulda been like if i hadnt married him.... i think it was only cuz we were having a hard time and this is the longest relationship ive ever had (over 2 years with my hubby) and before i ALWAYS had something new within a few months after the newness went away i didnt know how to feel.... just wait it out talk it over with a close friend confidentially and dont make any rash decisions... i love my husband more than anything besides my son so it was a fluke for about a week and i felt sooo guilty .. but im glad i never said anything or DID anything.... my husband is a good man and my rock, just evaluate these feelings and try to analyze them hang in there momma good luck :D

i think thats the biggest reason i stay...other than my kids.  fear of the unknown.

Quoting Renelephant:

I know that's the case with me!!! 

I just hope you'll consider that sometimes the relationship isn't great at that moment.   I'd hate for you to leave and regret it later, because it was a bad day or week etc.  I say that 'cause I did leave someone in my past for the same kind of reasons.  NOW, it's years  later, I wish I would have stayed.  He wasn't what I thought was my soul mate, but looking back, may have been the better choice! 

See my issue is a little dif.  We kiss hug and all that..  We fight every now and then too nothing bad like major yelling and hitting  mostly like how a brother and sister would fight actually..  Even when things are perfect sometimes I will think that maybe he wasn't the one I was meant to be with...  I want to be with him but it's weird.. 

Quoting Mama2twins05:

wow...my name is jennifer too and i am feeling the same way!!  i'm surrounded by friends who seem to have marriages full of love and affection, but we're just....not.  i spend a lot of time wanting that feeling of being loved by a guy...my husband isn't mean to me but you know what i mean.  the biggest thing i worry about is the fact that my girls are growing up to think that our marriage is the way a marriage is supposed to be, but its totally not.  we dont fight and yell at each other, but we don't hug, kiss, or any of that lovey stuff.  i do know how you feel.

EXACTLY HOW I FEEL.

Quoting jennifermay:

I definitely would do this but truthfully I have felt this way for years now.. it will not go away. I tried my hardest to fall in love with him for years, but I now know it is not possible, I don't feel we were meant to be together. He is a great man and has a good heart, but everyday I feel I deserve more, I deserve that moment of... OMG... this feels amazing! I have never truly felt that with him :( Sad to say but true... We are not married even though we have been together 6 years, so there would be no legal issues except the girls which I do not think we would have to go to court for that. I have evaluated them over and over.. and now at this point I don't think it will ever come to where I want to marry him or spend the rest of my life with him :( What do you think? Thank you sooo much for the encouraging words!

Quoting liamsmom31908:

i went trough a rush of emotions similar to this not to long ago...... i kept thinking about being with other ppl and such and what it woulda been like if i hadnt married him.... i think it was only cuz we were having a hard time and this is the longest relationship ive ever had (over 2 years with my hubby) and before i ALWAYS had something new within a few months after the newness went away i didnt know how to feel.... just wait it out talk it over with a close friend confidentially and dont make any rash decisions... i love my husband more than anything besides my son so it was a fluke for about a week and i felt sooo guilty .. but im glad i never said anything or DID anything.... my husband is a good man and my rock, just evaluate these feelings and try to analyze them hang in there momma good luck :D