Baby sitter question (she brings her child over)

anyone?

my little sisters are like that i am equal on both of them when i babysit

i think you need to let her know that yes be strict with your son but also she needs to keep her son from starting it and that she needs to treat them as equals when they fight

also that she needs to keep them from fighting instead of you having to get up and do it where you dont need to be out of bed

and that if her son continues to fight with your son and you have to get up which is messing with your pregnancy that you will have to ask her to not bring her child over anymore or find another sitter

I would find somebody else that doesnt have a child that can spend one on one time with your son maybe taking him to the park or somewhere where there are other kids to play with if you want him to play with other kids..obvioulsy this arrangement isnt working and it is just stressing you out.

To be honest, I think its her job to explain the rules to her son. First off its your house. She should tell him that he needs to be nice and thank your son for sharing his toys. You can also explain to your son that he should share. Another suggestion would be to have your friend bring some of her son's toys over so that each child can share and have something "new" to play with by swapping until quitting time. Hope this helps.

Maybe her views of parenting are different, Since you told her to be strict with your son maybe she is just trying to do what you say and not really meaning to be harder on your child just trying to make you happy.

I will reply for you but Idk what to tell you I had a problem kind of like this then my kid and my friends kid started hitting eachother so we had to stop the play dates between them I know this is different how about a timer to make them take turns like 5 minutes each for a certain toy and any one who dosent go along with that can have a time out ? Just a thought.

I would just have an honest talk with her about it. Tell her that your son is going through a tough time (cuz he is) with you on bedrest and the baby on the way and that he needs more attention. Especially if you are paying her. I wouldn't let my own kids fight that way, so she shouldn't be letting them either and the stress isn't helping you on bedrest. So, what I would say is, "ok, I noticed that they are fighting for way too long. I'd like to try (timeouts, whatever) everytime they start fighting over something"....kids pick up on it pretty fast and will start getting along. It's hard cuz you're getting into parenting issues here, but if she's going to be around that much with her kid, something needs to be done! Hang in there mama!

I think today that I will tell her I can't help separate them.  Yesterday I had a lot of really big contractions even though I'm on meds to stop them.  A premature birth is not what I want.  I hired her because I know her and felt safe having my son spend time with her.  I even gave her a key to my house, something I would never do for anyone else.  It's just really frustrating.

Quoting AliciasMommy:

my little sisters are like that i am equal on both of them when i babysit

i think you need to let her know that yes be strict with your son but also she needs to keep her son from starting it and that she needs to treat them as equals when they fight

also that she needs to keep them from fighting instead of you having to get up and do it where you dont need to be out of bed

and that if her son continues to fight with your son and you have to get up which is messing with your pregnancy that you will have to ask her to not bring her child over anymore or find another sitter

 

When my daughter (4) fights with her best friend over toys first we make them take turns, depending on who's home it is the guest gets the first turn (we made this rule because they starting fighting over who gets a turn first...lol),  if they continue to fight over it take it away for the entire day, and if that doesn't work tell them they have to play seperate for 10 minutes, If they cant play nice they can't play at all.  This one always works for me.  Of course if there literally fighting (physically) they should be removed from each other the first time, toy taken, and punished (timeout etc)

If she's tried all of this then maybe she could set activites for the start of the day. They could sit at the table and do crafts, play outside or watch a movie at the beginning of the day. They may play better after this...

She should be equally strict. Maybe she's not because her's is 3? I think that's just how kids are though, always fighting over something. I remember my best friend and I, as soon as we got together, it was something! lol, my mom would say, "are they at it already??".

You should just talk to her about it and let her know what's bothering you but that you do appreciate her help. Good Luck!