i do alot hands on with my dd but sometimes i need a break so when we are at a park or a party i do let her run sometimes...i always watch her and she comes to me if she needs me but it is nice to be out with other adults and honestly if other kids are around to play with she could care less about me...

That's what I was thinking, too. If I'm with other adults, the kids kind of do their own thing. I didn't go there to play. It's never been a problem because my children have always been able to entertain themselves. At the park, we do both, sometimes they would just rather play with the kids there then with me, sometimes I'm the one pushing them on the swing and sliding down the slides with them. It all depends.

Quoting rubi:

i do alot hands on with my dd but sometimes i need a break so when we are at a park or a party i do let her run sometimes...i always watch her and she comes to me if she needs me but it is nice to be out with other adults and honestly if other kids are around to play with she could care less about me...

Same with me.

And...when my dad and his partner are around, you can forget about me and my hubby having anything to do with our girls. Our girls care less about us lol they want their papa!

It's not handing off your kids. It's just not having your kids 100% attached to your ass at all times. My children are very independent, especially being 4 and 2. Doesn't mean I don't love them and spend time with them, I just don't hover and suffocate them.

Quoting rubi:

i do alot hands on with my dd but sometimes i need a break so when we are at a park or a party i do let her run sometimes...i always watch her and she comes to me if she needs me but it is nice to be out with other adults and honestly if other kids are around to play with she could care less about me...

my 4 year old is very close to me but there are times that he just wants to do his oww thing and with a 2 month old i cant be running aroud the playground with him but i pay attention i dont talk to anyone but him

I understand completely. I am always shocked by my friends.. like my one friend had her baby and then was immediatly leaving him with her parents so she could go out and have a good time... like when he was 2 weeks old she left him to go see a movie.... may not be a big deal to some but I was shocked. I couldn't be pulled away from my son for anything, especially when he was that little.

I know what your saying, I wonder myself alot. I am the gma that is taking care of one of DD children. She actually has another that the father is taking care of. I didn't raise her this way. I was very hands on with both my children. My gdaughter comes to me and even has called me mom by accident. She has to be confused at times. We just make the best of it hoping DD gets her shit together.

when i am at a park, i am always watching my child, but my child is also playing with other children.  if he happens to do something wrong you bet your ass i am on top of it.

just because we are not GLUED to our children at times when you observe does NOT mean we are NOT hands on parents.

such a generalized statement to make towards people.

i take my son to the park so he can play, i take him to parties so he can play.  when we are at home, WE play.

i dont need to be UP MY CHILDS ASS nor does HE NEED TO BE UP MY ASS to be a hands on parent.  you do NOT how these parents interact with their child at other times.

it shows IGNORANCE to ASSUME

Exactly.

Quoting rubi:

i do alot hands on with my dd but sometimes i need a break so when we are at a park or a party i do let her run sometimes...i always watch her and she comes to me if she needs me but it is nice to be out with other adults and honestly if other kids are around to play with she could care less about me...

A lot of the times when we are out at play groups and stuff I watch from a distance and let DD play and socialize and figure out things on her own. Sometimes I do have to step in and help her, and I am more than happy to do so when the situation warrants it. But I do believe they learn a lot from just interacting.

If she was tearing the place apart, or struggling with a social situation that is beyond her capabilities, I definitely step in. I think sometimes find that correcting behaviors is too hard, or too much work, and they just ignore it. Sometimes they dont know what to do, so they ignore it.

Thank you! Finally, someone who I agree with lol

I refuse for my children to be up my ass at all times, and vise versa. They know they are loved and they are the most important thing, HOWEVER, they need their own little lives too. With other children, and even by theirselves, not just me.

Quoting MommyOnLI:

when i am at a park, i am always watching my child, but my child is also playing with other children.  if he happens to do something wrong you bet your ass i am on top of it.

just because we are not GLUED to our children at times when you observe does NOT mean we are NOT hands on parents.

such a generalized statement to make towards people.

i take my son to the park so he can play, i take him to parties so he can play.  when we are at home, WE play.

i dont need to be UP MY CHILDS ASS nor does HE NEED TO BE UP MY ASS to be a hands on parent.  you do NOT how these parents interact with their child at other times.

it shows IGNORANCE to ASSUME