My 7 year old DD has suddenly become a lot more modest. I was not worried at first, she wants more privacy when changing and wants to do her bath all by herself. I figured it is a good thing, all part of growing up and just gave her the privacy she asked for. Well tonight she went to put on her pj's and she told me she doesn't want to even see her own privates! I told her I want her to be comfortable with her own body and that there is nothing wrong with her privates. She told me she knows that but she just is embarassed by her own privates anyway and doesn't even want to see them herself. RED FLAG! I sat down with her and asked her if there is something that happened to make her feel this way. Does someone look at or touch her privates? She told me her friend that lives across the street, (also a 7 year old girl) sometimes plays games with her that involve taking off thier clothing. She was looking scared and ashamed. I gave her a hug and told her I am soooo proud of her for telling me this. I told her I want her to always feel safe to tell me about ANYTHING that makes her uncomfortable. I then added that I don't want her to play games with anyone that involve taking clothing off. I told her it is not a good game to play and that I was going to talk to her friends mom and that we would have to make sure that they do not play those games anymore. She seemed to be feeling a little better. She asked if she can tell dad about it too. I told her yes but I wanted to be with her when she did, (to make sure he doesn't over react). We told her dad together about it and I let him know what my reaction was, trying to cue him on how to handle it. He just said "okay."
Well I went over to talk to her friends mom but they are not home. I plan on talking to her friends mom about this ASAP. I am concerned about what else I should say or do about this. Obviously supervise the girls while they play more closely. (I tend to be a lot more strict and supervise close when she is playing with boys, guess I have to do this with girls too?)
She is obviously effected by this, since she has become uncomfortable with her body. I don't want to minimize but I also don't want to over react. I am not sure what else I need to do?