does your child "favor" one set of grandparents?

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  • Kays_Mama06
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:19 PM

• My dad lives in Boston (we're in Orlando) and DH's parents live near us so he sees them obviously more.

  But my son doesnt really favor anyone over anyone. He loves to be with those that love him and spoil him. lol.  

  
  

  
  

  

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  • raegansmom
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:24 PM

• My DD has 3 sets of grand parent because my parents are divorced.  Only 1 set (my mom & step dad) give a damn about her.  I don't really get it, my inlaws don't have any other grand children & my dad & step mom are very involved with my sisters kids.  I used to be hurt but now I feel that it is THEIR loss.  They choose to not know my DD.  I don't tote her to everyone's house.  We are rarely invited & frankly, I am so over it.  my dad & my in laws act like they have no idea why Raegan wants nothing to do with them.  I just tell them, "She doesn' tknow you, that's why."  I wil not make excuses for them. 
  

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  • vatofamily
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:26 PM

• Eh, I don't know if they favor per say.  They do know my parents much better but it has a lot to do with my parents.  However, they will talk to both sets of grandparents on the phone and all of that.  How old is your daughter?  Maybe she's just shy.  I don't think kids really care or favor grandparents.

  We're military so all of the boys' grandparents live quite a bit away.  [DH's mom is in New Mexico.  His dad is in Southern Florida.  My parents live in Ohio.]  I make sure they keep in touch by participating to make little things to send to all their grandparents [cards, letters, pictures, etc...] and we try to webcam with anyone who will webcam with us.  It seems like that has helped them know that they do have lots of grandparents and family.  They love to send things in the mail.  My parents probably do the most sending things back and keeping the lines of communication open but that doesn't make it so he doesn't know or like his other grandparents.

  Oh well, this is long.  LOL!  Maybe just let your DH know she's shy talking to people on the phone.  My son was like that with everyone at first now he'll talk to just about anyone---even the 611Cingular lady.  Best of Luck!

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  • KathyGabe
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:54 PM

• My boys favor my parents more because they saw them more then my hubby's parents and did more with them. We moved out of state and they call them all the time.

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  • MrsApple
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:58 PM

• My daughter definitely favors my parents,but that's only because they live 20 minutes away and we see them atleast once a week,but usually more.My MIL is wonderful and adores our daughter (as  our daughter adores her) but she lives out of state and we're only able to see each other once a year and our daughter just isn't interested in speaking on the phone often so they know each other as well.I wish they didn't have to go so long in between seeing each other but that's how it'll be for a few more years atleast.She wasn't able to come out for her usual October visit so we're looking forward to seeing her at the beginning of January!

  

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  • JRLKBGMomma
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 8:46 PM

• I just used the word favor for lack of a better one...I guess my dh's comment about how its our fault that she doesn't see her other grandparents kind of rubbed me the wrong way.  I feel that if they want to come see her they should make time, its a 2 way street.

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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  • TBKSuperMama
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 9:20 PM

• I understand exactly what you're saying. My boys have a lot more to do with my parents than my husband's mother. They have been around them more and even though we all live in the same town they usually stay with my parents when we have something t odo that they cant go to and rarely stay with my MIL.

  We used to go to my MIL's house and that was the only time that she saw the boys but now I insist that she comes by our house some too so that its not just us doing all the taking. My parents are just more involved with them. They play trucks and cars and watch cartoons with them. MIL thinks she can bribe their love with candy and treats but what kids really want more is the attention. ( Not saying that my parents dont give to them too but not near like MIL)

   

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  • Bekah062205
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 9:23 PM

• dd knows dh's parents better...We live in Southern CA and his parents live in Northern CA so its easy to go visit or them to come down here.....my parents live in VA. dd has seen them when she was 5 months old, and then again this past Aug. and she is 2.5 now.
  

  
  

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  • So_Devious20
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 9:26 PM

• DD only has one set of grandparents. Her father's mother passed away, and he is no longer in contact with his father*.

  I however, did favor one set of grandparents. Actually, it wasn't even a set. It was my mom's mom. Me and both of my brother's did. In fact when we were made to go visit my dad's parents we would pout, sigh, cry, whatever. They smoked for one, and for two, we were the only grandkids except for our one cousin at the time. It was boring there, and they'd always ask us stupid questions. Not to mention when I was younger I used to be quite chunky and they'd always comment on it.  I always referred to my mom's mom as Grandma and my dad's mom as Grandma Leigh(her name).

   

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  • butterflyblu
  on Nov. 4, 2009 at 9:26 PM

• My parents and DH's parents don't live near us so our son only sees each about twice a year.  But last time I went to see my parents, my son was so attached to my mom.  He was 18 months and would follow her everywhere!  I thought it was so sweet.  My mom is also more hands on with him than my MIL so I think that makes a difference.  But he doesn't really see either of them enough to really say he favors one set over the other.  I do think he naturally is more responsive to my parents though but it's just the way they are around him.  I think my MIL doesn't want to overstep her boundaries or something.

  
   

  
  

             

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