I have lived in Arkansas for the last 10 years in the same town as my DH's family. 900+ miles from MY family in Wisconsin. We have just recently had a baby and also just recently decided that we are going to move to Wisconsin because quite honestly the school system in Arkansas is screwed royally. Wisconsin schools are pretty good and I would like to be near my family for a change. (His family is a little nuts)
Anyway so today my MIL called and was crying and carrying on. I understand that she doesnt WANT us to move. She kept telling me that I couldnt take our baby away from her memaw (grandma). Etc..etc...etc...and finally she just got mad and started yelling about how I was taking her baby boy AND her grandkids away from her.
I tried to calmly explain our reasons (hoping some light would pop on and she would be reasonable) for moving. I explained that it was ACTUALLY her son's (dh's) idea and not mine. And I asked her was it fair for MY parents to not be near their grandkids. SHE got all hoity toity about how I moved HERE and had kids not the other way around and that they have money and can afford to come visit us here.
I wasnt rude, and I wasnt mean. BUT AFTER the call I was sooo pissed off. My parents aren't as important as she is??? What gives?
Well, your MIL will probably be upset about it for a while. Just let her be upset and hopefully she gets over it when she figures out there is nothing she can do about it. I would give up a lot to be able to move back to where MY family is...and if my MIL was upset, OH WELL...PEACE OUT. But hopefully, once you move she'll come around, at least for the kids. Good luck!
Wife to JC, Mom to Hannah, Cody & Eli
My mil is the same way. I went out of town with my mom and son for a day. Then the next weekend his mother decides she wants to my son out of town for the day. My hubs tells her yes but gives her rules and asks her a lot a questions. Well she doesn't feel like she has to answer any questions because she raised to kids and blah blah blah. So my hubs simply tells her if she doesn't want to answer to us then she doesn't have to take him. She proceeds be asking him (in front of me) "well do you tell her mother the same things when she takes him out of town?" that pissed me off so I told her " First of all I went with her on that trip..." Then my husband seeing my obvious pissed-off-ness cuts me off and says " secondly it none of your business what I tell her, if you don't want to listen to what I have to say about my son then you don't have to take him anywhere anymore". That hasn't been the end of my MIL struggle. In fact that wasn't even a blimp on the radar. LOL
Maybe you should talk to your hubby and have him striaghten his mom out.
yea my mil did that.... bitched because we moved 70 miles away. Frickin 45 minutes. ON THE INTERSTATE. and we did it for military. screamed that i was taking her son away, and grandchild *who wasnt even born yet*
needless to say, she has never tried to see my son. crazy bitch
proud 20 year old mommy to the love of my life Wyatt, born 01.08.09 and totally in love to my Marine Patrick since 01.10.08
My MIL locked herself in the bathroom after we told them that we were moving to Texas. She was mad for weeks. Eventually she got over it... well, enough that she didn't make a huge deal of it every time we saw her. She cried a lot, but is more ok now. We do get the occasional request to move back to Maine, but its been a year, and I think she's come to accept it. Good luck!
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- excougarmama
on Nov. 4, 2009 at 8:48 PM