Okay, so bear with me this might be long.
A married Sgt. in my husbands shop has been sleeping with a LCpl for a while now...it's the rumor so naturally everyone pretty much knows besides his wife. The LCpl is also currently married but going through the divorce process.
So, the LCpl has been getting special treatment because of her relationship with the Sgt and she's been passing things off...which as a LCpl is pretty much inacceptable. Well, today she wouldn't do ANYTHING! The Cpls (including my husband) were getting pissed off because she passed everything off and didn't do shit.
So, they decided to give her a counseling and so my husband gave it. She kept saying she had personal problems but she couldn't talk to absolutely anyone about it and ended up breaking down in tears. As decided, the Cpls still gave her duty this weekend and she said she couldn't stand duty this weekend because she had a DR. appt Saturday morning at 0700.
My husband and the other Cpls went to go speak to the Sgt and the GSgt who were in the office. The Sgt is the same one sleeping with the LCpl and were discussing the fact that she couldn't stand duty. My husband was willing to push the duty back to 1200 but the Sgt explained that he is driving her to her appt on saturday and she won't be medically able to stand duty at 1200. So, she's being skipped by as usual for her lack of work ethic and the Cpls are on the warpath since it is effecting them.
The GSgt stood by the Sgt and it is appearing to be quite the elaborate cover up. The Cpls (knowing the Sgt and LCpl are sleeping together) are pretty sure he's taking her to get an abortion and from her emotional outburst and not working all day, they're assuming she doesn't agree with it.
NOW, here's to my problem. My husband and another Cpl want to take this up the chain of command because the Sgt is appearing to be pushing the LCpl in this decision since he is married. My husband wants to try anonymously but I doubt that will happen. This will explode everywhere and my husband goes on leave tomorrow at 1200.
He keeps asking my advice on what he should do and I kind of worry that maybe we should mind out own business because I'm afraid of them coming after my husband. If they know he went above their heads then he'll get in HUGE trouble since the Sgt and GSgt are in on this together. My husband's EASing in 6 months and I'm afraid they're going to make our remaining time here hell.
SO, my question, should I convince my husband to stay out of it? Will he recieve punishment for turning them in? What could they do to him?
Sorry this is long but they want to go in tomorrow to talk to the MGsgt and I worry about this all blowing up in their faces. Thanks!
i would tell my husband to stay completely out of it. thats a very volatile situation..you dont want to get caught up in it. she is a grown up, no one can force her to do anything.
Quoting mommywife06:
He cant get in trouble either way. So just put that out of your mind. I would push him to stay out. I know its wrong but its not us and its not our place IMO. So thats me though
See, I agree with you. I wish he would stay out of it...I feel bad for the girl but really...she started sleeping with a married man and yes he's her Sgt but she should have considered that beforehand. I just want to bite our tongues until we're free but he is so pissed about her not working and he HATES the guts of this Sgt and wants to bring him down...thank you for the input! I hoped they wouldn't be able to drag my husband into it any way since he is under the Sgt.
Quoting kiralyn:
i would tell my husband to stay completely out of it. thats a very volatile situation..you dont want to get caught up in it. she is a grown up, no one can force her to do anything.
without hard proof, i'd tell my husband to stay out of it and just push through the next 6 months. this would be a HORRIBLE situation if my husband had to deal with it & i know he'd bitch about it everyday, but if he goes above the gunny's head and makes claims against this sergeant that can't be proven, they can do more than make his life miserable.
They cant. Unless he was sleeping with her also(doubtful) but thats the only way. Yea she IMO sounds like the type who is sleeping with her SGT just to get by easily. What will happen with they get caught is a no contact order. Her divorce isnt final yet is it? They will get a no contact order put against each other and then whatever his wife wants to do divorce whatever they will go from there
Quoting Nicole88:
Quoting mommywife06:
He cant get in trouble either way. So just put that out of your mind. I would push him to stay out. I know its wrong but its not us and its not our place IMO. So thats me though
See, I agree with you. I wish he would stay out of it...I feel bad for the girl but really...she started sleeping with a married man and yes he's her Sgt but she should have considered that beforehand. I just want to bite our tongues until we're free but he is so pissed about her not working and he HATES the guts of this Sgt and wants to bring him down...thank you for the input! I hoped they wouldn't be able to drag my husband into it any way since he is under the Sgt.
Quoting nemiller:
without hard proof, i'd tell my husband to stay out of it and just push through the next 6 months. this would be a HORRIBLE situation if my husband had to deal with it & i know he'd bitch about it everyday, but if he goes above the gunny's head and makes claims against this sergeant that can't be proven, they can do more than make his life miserable.
I completely agree with you. But, it was hard all night as he was yelling at bitching about dealing with this LCpl and then to actually have something nail the Sgt with. I just find the lack of proof risky and I asked him to keep his nose out but he's convinced this won't be bad. I just want to come back with something solid to warn him about because I REALLY don't want him to do this. He's planning on going tomorrow in the morning since his leave is at noon and the "abortion" will be saturday. I might just stay up all night to knock some sense in him in the morning. Thank you!
Were an airforce family so I'm not extremely familiar with the rank structure... so is one the supervisor of the other? My husaband works in the legal office and we talk about whats against the rules and such often. It is against the ucmj to have an affair on your spouse and you could be discharged because of it...on top of it if it is a supervisor/subordinate relationship then that is a double no no. Your husband should not face any reprocussion for turning them in...they are breaking military standards. If he is treated unfairly then he can take that up his chain of command. The first thing he needs to do is report them to his superiors (in the airforce that would be a 1st ssgt or a chief.. and then the commander...not sure what he would be for him). Maybe ask for a meeting in his/her office and explain the circumstances. I think that I gave you correct info...if dh was awake I could give you more detail...
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on Nov. 5, 2009 at 12:47 AM