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So on Tuesday my husband and i decided that we were going to start trying for another baby! I was so excited because i have had baby fever for quite sometime now. My son is 18 months old and will be around 2 1/2 when the baby is born if we conceive right away, i have always wanted my kids to be around 2 years apart so this is perfect!!! Until yesterday...
I put up on my facebook that we are trying to conceive, i was so excited!!! Well someone (i suspect my SIL who hates the fact that her brother married a white woman and therefore threw a fit when we said we were getting married) told my MIL...yesterday the shit hit the fan! She (MIL) emailed my husband saying that we were making a big mistake and that we need to wait until my son is 3 or 4 in her opinion. When my husband told me about this i said "My body, our marriage, our family, our choice." And i thoughth that he would agree with me....nope. Now he is rethinking the decision. And our arguement went like this
me: "Your mother had no right to tell us to wait"
dh: "She was just giving us an opinion"
me: "We didn't ask for her opinion, she had no right to force it upon us, unless we ask she doesn't get an opinion"
dh: "everyone has the right to their opinion"
me: "they do, but it was just tacky and rude for her to give us one without us asking, she does this crap all the time!!"
dh: "wait did you tell your mom what she said?"
me: "of course i did, she is my best friend and i was pissed!"
dh: "great, your mom thinks bad of my mother because you tell her stuff like this"
me: "no, my mother thinks bad of her because she was there when your mother threw a hissy fit about her name not being on our wedding invites even though she refused to pay a dime, she was there when your mother showed up to my bridal shower without so much as a card, she was there last christmas when your nephew got a macbook laptop and our son got nothing, and she was there when your mother showed up to my sons first birthday party without a gift, if she thinks bad of her that is why!"
dh: "well i have to think about having another baby"
UGH!!!!! I HATE THIS WOMAN. Does anyone know how i can get rid of her, do they sell Raid for Mother in laws???
Sorry that sucks but i doubt it :) If they did i would be definatly buying stock in it hahaha Just get your DH drunk and take advantage of him then opps haha
I have no advice for you, and im sorry about that.
It took about 4 years before me and Dh realised that his mom was detrimental to our marriage. We have not spoken a word to her in about 2 years, and we are sooo much better off with out her. I hope things work out for you!
Oh i have already decided that i am staying off my birth control. She san go suck it. And my husband said if it happens before we plan it then it happens....i will make it happen, becuase he will regret it if we wait and he has to leave his 2-3month old child and go off to Afghanistan
Quoting cuddlebunnymom:
Sorry that sucks but i doubt it :) If they did i would be definatly buying stock in it hahaha Just get your DH drunk and take advantage of him then opps haha
If they did have a spray for MIL's Mine would have been Gone along time ago.. Mine is a QUEEN Bitch.. I am married to her and not to D/H.. L O L
OH i sooo knew this was a MIL post before i opened it lol! If someone should find this MIL be gone spray let me know. I'm thinking about starting a petition for congress to add a box on divorce papers that says MIL. It would be like no contest but it's really because your MIL is a crazy self centered B!
I think your hubby has a problem standing up to his family. He also needs to read the bible where it says that a man is to leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife.
On the other hand. You put it out there. If you know how they are yous should have waited until you were pregnant. Then they wouldn't have an opinion.
I dealt with that situation for over 22 years. I just did what I was supposed to do and watched the other grandchildren get while mine didn't. They know who loves them.
On the other hand my husband thought it was funny. My children were hurt and to this day don't even expect anything from that side of the family.
Where do i sign?..lol
Quoting tankgirl84:
OH i sooo knew this was a MIL post before i opened it lol! If someone should find this MIL be gone spray let me know. I'm thinking about starting a petition for congress to add a box on divorce papers that says MIL. It would be like no contest but it's really because your MIL is a crazy self centered B!
First of all, I think it's more your hubby's fault than his mother. He shouldn't obey to what she believes.On the other hand, he probably reacted to the way you handle the subject. (I know you're right). I was married for 20 years and all these years I thought it was his parent's fault as they used to interfere. Well, it was their fault too, but it was my ex's fault as well .Moreover, I DO BELIEVE that your mother shouldn't be your best friend. That means that you both let your parents interfere. That's my opinion. Hope things will become better with your hubby.
The funny thing is that my mother never interferes, she does not tell us what to do or give her opinion unless i ask her for it. I know it is my husbands fault too for allowing my MIL to be the way she is, but he even tried to talk to her about it once, and she said i was being to sensitive and she wasn't going to change. I just told him last night, "let me know when you and your mom decide we should have children," and went to bed. Now i wake up this morning and i am still pissed
Quoting yianna671:
First of all, I think it's more your hubby's fault than his mother. He shouldn't obey to what she believes.On the other hand, he probably reacted to the way you handle the subject. (I know you're right). I was married for 20 years and all these years I thought it was his parent's fault as they used to interfere. Well, it was their fault too, but it was my ex's fault as well .Moreover, I DO BELIEVE that your mother shouldn't be your best friend. That means that you both let your parents interfere. That's my opinion. Hope things will become better with your hubby.
I would be way more pissed at your husband than his mother. Yea ok so she has a "need" to throw her "opinion" out there but what is up with your husband letting her opinion trump yours? Obviously the 2 of you agreed that you are ready for a baby so WTF is his problem? It's your life not hers...
Oh and yeah his mom never buys our kids shit either and then tells me she is going to go to a church to get presents for them... Um yeah no thanks! I let her know flat out that I will not accept any donations for my kids Christmas.. please.. there are people whos kids really need it. You can see where we rank with that POS.
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