Ok so in Septmember I potty trained my dd in 4 days (she was ready n did great) well she went to her dads for the month of october (we have temp custody order of month on month off) and she comes back completely UNTRAINED and like set farther back than she was when i even started, she would stay dry all night and during naps that was one reason i thought she was truely ready this time (i had tried like back in july and gave her a couple months to get ready), well shes not staying dry even for the short periods of her naps let alone at night, she used to want to use the potty it made her happy and she likes wearing panties... Well one thing is the first day i had her back i put her in her panties (cause her dad told me he kept on it) and she had an accident got another pair of panties and then she ended up going poop and it was NASTY, so i called him and asked how long shed been pooping like that oh and she also had diaper rash (obviously not from wearing panties) he sd that it had been the last few days so hed kept her in diaper which ican understand cause i did also after that poop, but i didnt stop asking her if she had to go potty and still told her not to pee in her diaper, so her poop is back to normal so i have her in panties again and yesterday she did okay during the day (still wont stay dry during naps or sleep) but in the evening she didnt pee in the potty once,
and she has a little attitude about it like one of the first days i asked her why arent you going on the potty her response was "i dont wanna go on the potty anymore", then when shes on the potty and im tryin to get her to go (last time gummy bears worked) i offer her different things for rewards for her going and ill ask "do you want a fishie?" (she picked out swedish fish as her reward at the store) she'll say "yeah!" and ill say "ok then go peepee" her response "I dont want a fishie", me "ok what do you want?" her "ummmm i want peanuts" me "ok go on the potty and u can have peanuts" her "I dont want peanuts" and then ill suggest something else and i get hte same response , im running out of ideas and patience
on top of it all my dh is gettin pissed at me because i defended my dds dad cause he works all day so when hes workin his mom is watchin my dd and dds dad sd htat she was in panties as long as she wasnt out of the house and i lived at his parents house for a year his mom doesnt like to stay home, so i think it was more her that did this undoing cause i doubt she took her to the bathroom if htey went out some where, like i had my dd potty trained to the point she was holding it told me in the car she had to pee and waited til we got in the store or where ever to pee
Im going crazy tryin to figure out how to do this and deal with dh bitching in my ear about it all day (he hates my dds dad and loves to find any reason to hate him more n bitch about him its rather annoying) and i dont wanna punish my dd for peeing in her pants (which dh has suggested but i kno that can make it worse)
Anyone any ideas PLEASE?!
Punishing will make it much hard to train her in the long run. My kids loved band aids as a reward for going. Or maybe make a small treasure box, like stuff from the dollar store, and she could pick out of it after she went. My son was very difficult to get to have a bm on the toilet and we had "poop surprises", which were just a little treat that he normally would never get. Some kids take longer then others. It will happen, have you ever met an adult that was never potty trained? It just takes LOTS of patience, sounds like you are doing a great job so just keep it up.
My friend's dd went through something similar. She had her potty trained and then her dd regressed back to diapers. My friend let it go for a bit and then about a month or two later tried again and was successful. Good Luck. Maybe try talking to her dad and have him talk to his mom.
How old is she?
Maybe go back to taking her every 20-30 minutes until she gets it down again. She knows how to do it, but from the sounds of it, she regressed because they let her back into diapers so she didn't HAVE to stay dry.
Just be persistent and tell your DH to back off or he can clean up the next accident! (just kidding)
Good luck mama
My dd would revert any time my parents came to visit. So I looked it to it. When a child goes through any kind of change or tramatic event such as goin from one parent to another it happens(I dont think that is tramatic lol just a change). It doesn't help that your ex doesn't help but if you just keep following the same rutine as always she should fall back in to place. Potty training is hard. Good luck and just don't stress.
well she knows how to make her self go (she didnt forget how to do that luckily) so if i sit her down and tell her to pee and have her sit there a few mins she goes, but it seems like mostly that she has this attitude of she doesnt want to which drives me lol, so far today the tally is one accident and one success, i just gave her a cup of water so maybe shell have to go some more, i also put her in pants (last time when i potty trained her i left her in just panties) so today i put on a new pair of pants and told her shes not supposed to pee in her pretty new pants so hopefully it will help, my mil got some 1/2 off halloween candy and she likes the chocolate eyeballs so, she likes those better than her fishies..
I kno i gotta be patient its just so frustrating cause she was practically completely potty trained like no accidents except occational poop... I half expected some issues when she came back but not to the point where she was completely untrained and set farther back.... i swear when she goes with her dad in dec and comes back in jan the same way im gonna be LIVID!!!!
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