So whats your view on adoption? Is it that you want to, you want to but cant, dont want to, or only want to if its an infant??
My stand point? I'd LOVE to adopt, but liek some are accused of trying to find the "perfect" child, it is shown that the agencies are looking for the perfect home.. I understand wanting the best for the child, but whats best?? The option of possibly staying in an orphanage until someone whos rich adopts tyou which may never happen. or being more likely to find a home by allowing people like us to adopt. We dont have a perfect home, the child/children would have to share a room a boy with my sons and a girl with my daughter.. but if you do not have a seperate room for that child your off the list... we have food on the table not prime rib but food and good healthy food.. the standard is set way to high.. they are looking for perfection and children are being failed because of it...
Thoughts??
I agree. Some of the best parents I know are middle class and can't afford adoption, very sad.
Once my kids are older and not quite as much work...I would consider adopting an older child. My life is just too overwhelming right now to think about adding another child. But my heart breaks for kids who languish in the system and just want to be loved. If I had the money and the patience I would adopt as many as they would let me!
i would be itnerested actually untill i found out how much it costs.... i can't afford it.
I have always wanted to adopt since I was a kid.
I don't know if they will let us- my husband and I both have criminal records. We did our time, and we changed and we're now both good citizens, active volunteers in our community, etc.
But they will never let us adopt.
I was in the foster care system when I was about 15. I was lucky and was reunited with my parents, but I saw sooo many kids there who aged out or were almost aged out. It was just sad, perfectly lovely kids who would never have a home because they were too old.
If they let us adopt, I would take in teenagers, but only after my kids are grown.
I remember, back in the 5 seconds I actually considered adoption while ttc our dd, I realized adoption would be difficult, if not impossible for us. At the time, we had 12 dogs (all of whom came inside at night), our house was being renovated while we were living in it and was a hazard even for us and we had three large tokay geckos (about 14 inches long, light purple with big gold eyes) roaming the house freely and routinely scaring the hell out of visitors. I told my husband we would seem like the Adams family to any one from an agency! Fortunately, I got pregnant a few months later. But I also came to the conclusion that if I hadn't been able to have my own, we wouldn't adopt either. Unfortunately, I've seen 4 very messy adoptions and it's really put me off.
Quoting aidensmomma508:
i would be itnerested actually untill i found out how much it costs.... i can't afford it.
Adopting from foster care is free. The state pays all of the expenses. You can even have a subsidized adoption where they will continue to pay you a stipend every month until the child turns 18 if you just can't afford the expense of another child. My SIL gets $500 per month per child for a total of $1500 a month for her three kids.
We were put on a waiting list before we conceived our youngest. We still would like to conceive another child but would be happy adopting as well. For many many reasons we are still waiting. I am part Indian decent, they do not like that for some reason. I travel for work, they don't like that, even though I can control it as much as I want. We want a boy, because we have girls they don't like that. In a questionnaire, it asked about discipline. I replied that we have a naughty chair for short time outs, and for bigger infractions they are assigned additional chores based on age, the lady actually sneered at us when I said we do not spank!
The system is screwed, It has been three years on the list and I'm sure we will wait longer, that is if we are ever "fully" approved.
At this point it is not something I can do. I want to be more financially stable and wait until the kids are a bit older. I want to be a foster parent to older children and hopefully adopt a few.
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on Nov. 5, 2009 at 9:22 AM