The great news is my SO of a year proposed to me. He is great man...provider.....and father figure to my baby girl. I told my mom thinking she would be happy.....and all I got was a moutful of nasty comments and a dirty look. We have had our minor issues(my sO and I) but everyone does in a relationship. It is about give, take, and compromise. We have worked through any minor issues that we had.. And when I say minor....it is very minor. I am 27 years old....and am a grown person not a child. I am unsure if it is cause i am her daughter and she is kinda sad he wants to marry me,,,or the fact she has not had a boyfriend since I was born...or what.... I am not looking for HER approval...I just want her to be happy for me. Thank you ladies!!!!!
question: are you sure that the issue was truly minor... or do you just want to make it minor? Maybe talk to your mom about what her problem is- I can definitely tell you from experience that parents/outsiders from the relationship can see things more clearly than what we can.. you could say that we are blinded by love. lol
if it truly was just a minor thing, then hey! congrats! have you guys figured out the whole wedding date thing? i get cold feet just talking about it- i dont think i would actually be able to do it. lol
Congrats on your engagement. :) As for your Mother not being happy about it....has there ever been a time that you told her about any issues that you had with him? If that is the case, always keep in mind that Mothers (any close people for that matter) aren't as forgiving about things as you might be. This is the reason I do not tell anyone about relationship problems/issues that arise....when you are mad and look for support, those that are supporting you don't turn out to be as forgiving. Hope that your Mom comes around.
Quoting candygirl1030:Congrats on your engagement. :) As for your Mother not being happy about it....has there ever been a time that you told her about any issues that you had with him? If that is the case, always keep in mind that Mothers (any close people for that matter) aren't as forgiving about things as you might be. This is the reason I do not tell anyone about relationship problems/issues that arise....when you are mad and look for support, those that are supporting you don't turn out to be as forgiving. Hope that your Mom comes around.
Yes that was my problem I think. And the issues we had were very minor...very very minor. but now i know no matter how minor it is...i wont mention my issues to her at all :(
Quoting Shy_Dia:question: are you sure that the issue was truly minor... or do you just want to make it minor? Maybe talk to your mom about what her problem is- I can definitely tell you from experience that parents/outsiders from the relationship can see things more clearly than what we can.. you could say that we are blinded by love. lol
if it truly was just a minor thing, then hey! congrats! have you guys figured out the whole wedding date thing? i get cold feet just talking about it- i dont think i would actually be able to do it. lol
Yes the issues were very minor...little bickering arguments...it was soooo small...it is crazy. i know not to say anything to her
Quoting stpalmsgirl:Aw congrats on the proposal! I am sorry your mother acted that way maybe she is afraid of losing you or you not needing her anymore? I am sure she'll come around.
Yes and I also think the fact I have not left her side YET. I am 27 and still live with her....so maybe htat is it :(
Your page says you're single..you should probably change that lol. As for your mom..it sounds like she might be a tad bit jealous or something. Yes every relationship has issues but as long as you love each other and have respect for each other, there is nothing wrong with not having a "perfect" relationship in your mom's eyes. Does she not like him or something? I would think she would be very happy that the two of you want you guys to be a family.
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Congratulations!! As long as you're happy, that's what matters.
When my husband and I got engaged--his father said some hurtful things about me.
When I got pregnant the first time--more hurtful things said about me by his father.
I don't let it get to me. Best of luck for your future!
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