I just had a miscarrige on monday. I am really devastated. I had to have a d&c because i wasn't passing it. I had a lot of problems with my first pregnancy and was looking forward to a boring uneventful pregnancy this time. My friends and family seem to think i should be fine now that i've had the d&c,because its over, but i cry every time i think about it. It hasn't been a week yet. How long did it take those of you who have been through this to get over it.
it took me about 3 months to actually get over mine. cause 3 months after it happened i ended up pregnant again and had an ectopic pregnancy. Things will be okay momma , you will be fine and dont let anyone rush you into getting better. Take as much time as you need. Miscarriages are difficult to deal with.
I had a miscarriage back in June @ 14 weeks.....and a DNC as well.
You are going through a type of post pardum....all the hormones in your body are out of whack....not to mention you did lose a child.
please don't let your family discourage you ....we all deal with this type of thing in different ways....While I don't think you should let it consume you ....I also don't think you should be *over it * already.
Best Wishes to You :)
my first 2 I was soo devastated it took a months for me to be okay the other 3 were still hard but easir to deal with.
take your time its a grieving process,and its no ones place ot tell you that you should be over it by now,thats just freakin RUDE!! sorry to hear about you loss momma ((HUGS))
Im very sorry for your loss.I had a m/c back in june.It was one of the hardest things i have ever been through.It took alot out of me physically and emotionally. but time does heal!i still think about it alot but not so much.I took time to grieve and thats what you need to do.There is no time frame where it will get better it just will.I planted a rose bush in my yard for the baby.It helps me alot when i go out there and take care of it.All i can say is dont try and rush being upset crying is part of healing and talking about your experience.I wish you lots of luck and if you need to talk you can always pm me
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage on Jan 4 of this year. I found out on new years eve that baby was gone and miscarried 4 days later at 12 wks. No one who hasn't gone through a miscarriage will understand how you feel. They will try but they just wont understand. When I had mine my family was sad for me but they seemed over it in about 3 days. I was of course not over it for a very long time, well I am still not over it but things are better now. My mom even asked me to work in my dads office for a while 4 days after my miscarriage. i told her no, that I didn't feel up to it and she said, "why not, your all better aren't you?'' Yes I physically felt better, not mentally or emotionally. You have the right to greive your lost child, and there is no specific time frame for it. Talking about it with people who have gone through it too helps. There are some very nice groups on here for finding comfort. Also something that does help alot is naming your child. I did and it helped me alot. I didn't know the sex so I picked a name that could go either way. But at least I know my child was real, and has a name. Just rest, and take the time to greive however you wish.
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Thanks ladies. 
I am sorry for your loss.
I think it takes everyone different amounts of time. Personally, I was upset, but I knew there was nothing I could do to change what happened. It will be 2 years in February and I still think about the baby and what he/she would have grown up to be like. But I also got pregnant almost immediately afterwards and without losing my middle child, I wouldn't have my 11 month old daughter.
The main thing that really helped me was knowing it was out of my hands... there was nothing you did wrong and nothing you could have done to change things. It's an awful experience, but it has made me appreciate life even more.
Good luck and feel better.
It took me about 3 months to get over my miscarriage. Everywhere I turned there were cute kids popping up...drove me nuts and I started staying indoors until I mentally healed. Ours was a planned pregnancy, so the miscarriage hurt us both emotionally...but we tried again after those 3 months when the doctor said I should be ok....and now my son is 1. Take the time you need to heal and have faith.
Quoting glitterwings:
I just had a miscarrige on monday. I am really devastated. I had to have a d&c because i wasn't passing it. I had a lot of problems with my first pregnancy and was looking forward to a boring uneventful pregnancy this time. My friends and family seem to think i should be fine now that i've had the d&c,because its over, but i cry every time i think about it. It hasn't been a week yet. How long did it take those of you who have been through this to get over it.
I had one just over 2 yrs ago. It was Oct 19th of 2007. It was very sad. I passed naturally and did not need a D&C thankfully, but I did have to go through the pain of seeing everything pass. You will never forget about the baby you lost, but it will get easier. It took me a few months to not be sad anymore. It took me about a month before I no longer thought about it at least once a day. Now I go weeks at a time without thinking about it. I feel in my heart that it was another boy. I think about what "he" would have looked like and been like. I'll never know for sure if it was a girl or boy. The baby would be almost 18 months right now. I was due May 18th of 2008. I'm very sorry for your loss. Even though it was sad, I will go on to have another some day. The baby I lost was not planned, but I would have loved him/her tons!
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