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Am I just being bratty? **EDIT
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on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:27 PM
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So, ds birthday in in Jaunary. One day after my moms, and 7 days before my grandpas. Oh, and it will be his 1stbday.
Here's the thing. My mom wanted us to go down there for his bday, and i agreed. NOT knowing that she was going to plan a bash for everyones birthday. Now I know that 40 is a big birthday, and 67 is pretty great too, considering my grandpa has awful emphysema.
But dammit. I dont WANT to have a great big birthday bash. I dont WANT to have him share his 1st birthday party with everyone else. And she wants to do some theme. A theme that correlates to HER birthday. A 70s theme. WTF.
UGh i just want to do a special party for HIM. With all the first birthday decorations, all the attention on HIM. I'm totally planning on buying him a special 1st bday hat, and making him an outfit and getting a high chair decorator.
But dangit. I know i should be grateful. but for some reason i cant be. im just being bratty, arent i?
EDIT__
Well, im mainly upset because i just see this party becoming all about her...with the theme and her getting around all her siblings..
And im not upset about the birthday for HIM. Mainly for ME, because i know he wont remember it... but I will, and i just want that special memory to be about him, not him and her in all the photos and having all the attention, you know?
WHen she came up for his birth, 400 photos were taken. SHe was in about 380 of them, and *WE* dh and i, were in about 5.... and im betting thats how this goes..she's an... attention whore. Always has been!!
My sweet 16 video has her in every frame, and she decided to be "young" and dance on tables like WE were.. she's... outrageous
proud 20 year old mommy to the love of my life Wyatt, born 01.08.09 and totally in love to my Marine Patrick since 01.10.08
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:29 PM
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I don't think so. It is his first. While your mom and grandpas are important too this is his first, you should be able to do it up just for him. If it were me, I would tell my mom that I wanted him to have his own.
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:32 PM
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Quoting JulyBabies:
Do another party for him the weekend before or after
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:36 PM
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No, I don't think you are being bratty at all. I would feel the same way. Can there be two separate parties?
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:37 PM
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doesn't sound bratty to me I have the dilemma with this Christmas it's my daughters 1st and everyone wants us there. We're not going and I don't think you should either. It's his 1st birthday you and he deserve to have it how you want. You're right it's his day and Happy birthday to him. For what it's worth I agree with you.
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:38 PM
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NOt really... i mean, she's getting the whole family down, or at least hoping to. Even autie from cali
Quoting HeatherMae55:
No, I don't think you are being bratty at all. I would feel the same way. Can there be two separate parties?
proud 20 year old mommy to the love of my life Wyatt, born 01.08.09 and totally in love to my Marine Patrick since 01.10.08
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:38 PM
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I dont think your being bratty but maybe that is partial because my dad and youngest son share the same birthday. My dad has always made it about my son. Even when we threw my dad a 60th bday party we did it early so we did not distract from my son's 5th bday. Yes there was family that bitched they had to make two trips(no one that came to both are much more then an hour away) within 2 weeks but my dad set them straight lol.
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:39 PM
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but i just feel if WE did a party, it wouldnt be all that great. we dont know anyone here but the guys at his unit, and idk if they'd even come...
Quoting smilingmomma:
Quoting JulyBabies:
Do another party for him the weekend before or after
proud 20 year old mommy to the love of my life Wyatt, born 01.08.09 and totally in love to my Marine Patrick since 01.10.08
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