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If your spouse or SO cheated on you would you forgive and work it out or say bye-bye. Would you want to know every detail as in how it happened and if they wore a condom and etc...

no, i wouldn't. i love my husband dearly, but i've been pushed way too far in our relationship. he's never cheated, but seriously? i've got no more tolerance for his shenanigans. cheating would just put things over the top and our marriage would not be salvageable. i would never be able to trust him again, and i'm just not willing to live the rest of my life wondering where my husband is, who he's with, what he's doing, etc, etc, etc.
luckily, this is the one area where he's never slipped up. i trust him enough to know that he recognizes the consequences of sleeping with someone else. he's not willing to lose this marriage or our family over sex.

Depends on what type of cheating. Emotional, physical, desperate, confused, one time mistake, etc, etc, etc. Too much goes into that kind of thing for me. Gets another girl pregnant or pass an STD to me, leaving and never looking back. That is not something I could forgive and forget. All other scenarios would have to be picked apart and analyzed before I could make a decision.
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She said what I was thinking of but didn't want to type it all out...lol. Thanks, MarineWife!
Quoting MarineWife1108:Depends on what type of cheating. Emotional, physical, desperate, confused, one time mistake, etc, etc, etc. Too much goes into that kind of thing for me. Gets another girl pregnant or pass an STD to me, leaving and never looking back. That is not something I could forgive and forget. All other scenarios would have to be picked apart and analyzed before I could make a decision.
unfortunantly...i have been in this situation. Hubby cheatedphysically and a tad emotionally. And get hsi...she got pregnant.... the same time we first thought i was pregnant(ended up not being)that was AFTER we had already thought i was pregnant a month before...then I got pregnant the month after. our due dates were exactly one month apart. hers dec 3, mine jan3....
needless to say it was a living hell and very painful...but we worked through it...and we are still together.. still amrried...we're doing better, and he is a completely different man. He has to be the most trustworthy man I know...so it really depends on the guy.... he was willing to change because he knew he screwed up.
oh and yes i wante dot know everything...idk why...but it kinda made me fell better...like closer or something...i still ask him random questions if they pop into my head...like at SS baptism we went to her house for a lunch after with her family and his family...and after i asked himif it brought back memories of them having sex...and he got really suprised and said no...it actually never crossed his mind becuase he wasn't there thinking about her he was there thinking about SS(his son) and making sure i wasn'tgoing to have a breakdown or kill her lol
Yes, I did. I saw them together. Yes It broke my heart, but I did still love him. The next day I saw how sorry he was. I agreed to stay and work it out. It did take a long time, but I can say I am so happy I did. DH is a complelty different person than he was back then.

Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of our Lord Jesus Christ. ~Proclamation, September 23,1995~
No, I would not forgive and forget. Since we've been together my husband has promised me he would not break my heart the way it's been broken in the past and I'm holding him to it.
I've told him that if he cheats I'm gone, and if I cheat he's told me he'll be gone.

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