like i have known my niece is gone, known it since early morning on Tuesday when we got the phone call telling us so; but everyone is so quiet and so like wow its official she is REALLY gone. i am the same way..Before it was like a dream but now that she has had her funeral its really official. It felt that way at the cemetery; it was so hard to leave her there..my inlwas didn't want to leave their baby there. As we drove away i looked back and saw her casket sitting under the green tent and it felt so weird knowing she was in there and we were just letting her go.
This holiday season is going to be so hard. I already had her gift since we mail them up here the week before thanksgiving. Now what am i suppose to do with it? I can't return it..or throw it away its HER gift but she won't be here to enjoy it or even see it.
The holidays were her favorite..its just really hitting me she is gone. Rest in Peace Ann Marie Brown 1988-2009; you will always be loved by me and missed by me. I'm never ever going to forget about you..you will always and forever be my niece. I love you.
(((Hugs))) I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family!!
I'm sorry... Its really hard for me to attend funerals too. My cousin's baby died 3 weeks after he was born. They literally had to drag him from the casket when it was time to leave. Its so hard..
I am so sorry to ask.. feel free not to answer.. what happend to her?
My friend lost her daughter when she was 2...right after Thanksgiving. All of her Christmas gifts were wrapped - so she was in the same position as you. She didn't want to return them or even let her other daughter have them so she saved them. The following Christmas she was in a better place - not healed - but dealing with her grief so she wrapped up the gifts in pretty paper and bows and took them to the local Children's hospital and gave them away to the sick children - all of the gifts cards were signed " love a special Christmas angel " It was a beautiful way to remember her daughter.
im sorry op for your loss,yeah it is a sad way to say goodbye and just leaving her there its like hard to let go.im sorry you and your family is going through this and she was so young.my hubbys aunt lost her son and daughter in law and it was crazy because i have been to other funerals but this one just was so sad,you could feel the anger and hurt.see not tryin to upset you more than what you are but his cousin and wife were killed and this was on mothers day of 2006.they were just coming back home from a moms day party and were settling in for work the next day and the demons busted dowen there door and killed them.they tryed to take the baby to but were not successful.the funeral was just so sad and people were crying and passing out.his aunt jumped inside the coffin with her only son.its just very sad to think you wont be there with them and laughing and enjoying life together.just to leave them alone for the last time.im sorry but i was hearing where you were coming from on the cemetary.and maybe for her gift you can make her a little gathering with your family after the whole thing and just share what you have for her.treat her as she is still here.i know its not the same.but anyways im sorry i made this so long
Wow I had no idea you were going through something like this and I'm so terribly sorry to read about it. There is nothing I can say to bring you peace and comfort with what has happened. Unfortunately things like this just take a lot of time....Sending positive thoughts your way though!
As for her gift...maybe you could donate to to a charity in her name? Also as the holidays approach don't be afraid to bring up her name and remember the good times you have shared. One of the most common things I heard while doing bereavement counseling is that family members felt alone in grieving because nobody wanted to talk about the big white elephant in the room. Its common in America especially because we generally are uncomfortable with death. We don't want to acknowledge it because of the discomfort and thereby avoid talking about the person to those people who loved them the most. They are on everyones mind for some time to come and it is actually healing to talk about them. Remembering her during the holidays and reminiscing with family members about her will probably be the best gift you can give to the family as well as yourself. Don't fear crying because it is a healing process.
My daughter was born in 1988...I cannot imagine what you are going through... To me...20 is so very young....I understand she was a twin and her sister is in the hospital..? Love and healing light to her and strength and peace to your whole family...
Drillers Wife, Toughest Job In The Oil Field.
Meet Our Military Moms
In honor of Memorial Day, let's get to know the strong and supportive group of Military Moms right here on CafeMom!
Ashley's Husband Made it Home From a Deployment in Iraq - And Then Tragedy Struck
- edwardsgirl
on Nov. 7, 2009 at 7:54 PM