Working moms that USED to be sahms I need advice please!!!
I am 27 yrs old almost turning 28 in Dec. I haven't worked since 2004 I have 2 kids now and my boys are 4 and 7 months. I just feel over whelmed with bills and I feel like my dh can't really catch up. When we have money saved up is when income time comes around and that helps us through out the whole year including what I pull aside to savings. I know that if I worked it would help us out a lot.
Is it normal that I feel so nervous and overwhelmed about even considering looking for a job now? I mean I feel like crying a lot I don't want to leave my boys but they'll be well taken care of with my sil. I raised her I trust her with my kiddos it's just I'm nervous of what type of office I will work at how I will handle all this all over again I just get so anxious and scared. Did any of you feel like this after being a sahm mom after a while? Are these feelings OK??? How did you handle?
I started my career after my kids were in school all day....but those are totally normal fears/anxieties. This biggest thing is that you have your kids with somebody you trust. And maybe once you catch up or get ahead with finances...you can quit, or cut your hours. Good luck to you!!
Well I was only a SAHM for a year while hubby was deployed for 15 months as my job at the time did not have hours conducive to traditional childcare (I'm back to work and hubby's back being deployed) so I don't have any advice for you but here's a bump.
Have you considered maybe watching a baby or two at home? That way you can still stay home with your kids. It is what I used to do and am considering doing again. I charged 600 a month for each infant and parents are very willing to pay because it is someone's home and their child will receive much more attention then at daycare.
I was a stay at home mom for 8 years, and then started a career when my husband was going to be laid off. But, I did wait tables here and there for extra money. Maybe one or two nights a week and that added a good amount of income. No day care to pay because my husband was home. But on a Friday night, I could go home with $200. I'd look for a family owned business because you are less likely to have to tip out to your hostess, dishwasher, bartender.
It's a good way to supplement income and be able to stay home with the kiddos!
Quoting mommaboudreaux:
Have you considered maybe watching a baby or two at home? That way you can still stay home with your kids. It is what I used to do and am considering doing again. I charged 600 a month for each infant and parents are very willing to pay because it is someone's home and their child will receive much more attention then at daycare.
I did run a daycare last year but quit when I was pregnant but I just don't feel like it's for me I was just too stressed about taking care of someone else's kids if one kid had an accident I would be too hard on myself I had considered my sister in law working with me like assisting me and I could pay her but I would only get 2 kids so that wouldn't bring in a lot of money? I don't know?
I have been a wahm over the last 7years and just went back to working outside the home in Sept. and I felt just like you. It gets better. You having someone you trust with your kids is HUGE, and thankfully you wont have that worry. I am just now starting to like working outside the home, I am just now starting to see where it makes a difference. Good luck momma!
I was a SAHM for almost a year and then went back to work. Yes, everything you are feeling is normal! It is tough to go back to work and let someone else take care of your child. It is tough to balance work and home. However, it can be done if you need to. Just know that everything will be okay, give it time to work out.
I am an LPN at a nursing home but was a SAHM for 3 years prior. It was hard going back but I knew I needed to do it because I just recently got divorced and had to support my kids plus I needed to keep my hours up so I could get insurance and keep my nursing license.So now I'm full time but I still get plenty of time with my kids. My son goes to daycare and I work while the older 2 are in school. You could find something part time. Even that would help out. Good luck with your decision.
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