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Would you be upset... feeling a little brushed off

SurvivingMommy

posted to Newcomers Club - Active discussion in The CafeMom Newcomers Club
on Nov. 8, 2009 at 3:39 AM

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So I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago.. we've been out 4 times now, and gotten sexual once. So tonight we're talking on AIM and he asked me to commit to him. This is the first man I've really liked since my sons father and I don't want to rush things.. so I told him just that. (He knows about my past and my abusive relationship.. and before anyone says anything.. I don't connect sex with love.. sex is sex, love is love that's just my personal opinion). The conversation turns sexual and *HE* brings up birth control.

So I say well obviously we're going to continue to use condoms,  he says okay and I said  and I'm already on top of the birth control issue. He say's "Well I'm glad to hear that babe"... and then signs off..

So I wait thinking maybe his computer was acting stupid... 15 minutes go by and I text him and say "Um.. good night I guess"... Nothing, no reply..

It kinda pisses me off because you want me to commit to a relationship with you, but you can't commit to completeling a conversation with me... I'm feeling a little brushed off right now.. Maybe it's just PMS... would you be upset..

Also he does this at night too, I'll be laying in bed, half way falling asleep but texting back and forth with him anyway, because he works until 2 am and then texts to see if I'm up.. but then randomly he just stops replying.. I've always just brushed it off as he fell asleep.. But I mean you don't fall asleep at the computer and then sign off in your sleep

Written by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 3:39 AM

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  • nikonme
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 3:53 AM
  • Follow your instincts. I hate sneaky men.
  • dannysgirl77
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 3:54 AM

  • I have a friend who does this. . . There is ALWAYS a reason though. Dont worry too much yet. Men are not the same as us, they do not see that it is bothersome


  • Cherish77
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 4:37 AM

  • I would dump him now, he seems flakey, you don't need that.

  • WLNL0507
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 6:42 AM

  • I also think he's flaky. And, I believe he was asking about the Birth Control to make sure he doesn't get a "hey im knocked up" phone call in a few weeks. Drop his butt and find someone worth your time. 

  • Revine
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 6:53 AM

  • I think if you really like him and you think he's worth trying, then let him know that what he keeps doing is bothering you and he could at least say, "Hey, I'm tired, I think I'm going to head to bed." It's just rude to not reply back.

  • gypsydancer7
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:00 AM


  • Quoting WLNL0507:

    I also think he's flaky. And, I believe he was asking about the Birth Control to make sure he doesn't get a "hey im knocked up" phone call in a few weeks. Drop his butt and find someone worth your time.



  • happy2gether5
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 8:12 AM

  • Oh my you told him that you don't want to rush things however you have seen him 4 times and have already had sex with him. That doesn't make sense to me.

  • JulyBabies
  • by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 8:42 AM

  • I would just say to him the next time that I spoke to him " You know you could say goodbye" and see what his reaction is.

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