SAHM only a fulltime job if you do it

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  • Mommina
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:29 AM

• I agree with the sentiment but not the semantics!  I just wouldn't call it a 'job'.  But yes, I don't understand women who say they don't have time to clean or cook or that is not a priority because their children are their first priority.  In my mind, cleaning and cooking are part of the children.  I mean shit, I work full time outside the home and still cook from scratch and have a very clean house.  It's what you do as a parent.

  

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  • doublethejoy616
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:32 AM

• I see what you're saying, but my dh is the stay at home parent and I don't mind doing the dishes and laundry (well, sometimes I bitch about it, hee hee) when I get home because they are usually in the middle of some art project or dancing around the house or reading books and I am stoked that they have that time with their daddy :-)

  Now if I get home and no cleaning is done and he's on the computer or something, then I am pissy :-)
  

  
  

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  • Crystallynn
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:32 AM

• well there are a lot of determining factors with this.......LOL

  For the most part, i agree with you.   In order for it to be a job, you have to do the job.  BUT on the other hand, I am a sahm and my husband is deployed, so I am also a "single" mom..... and although M-F the kids are in school, it is the weekends that I am afraid of.  My son has ADHD/ Combined type with Depressive tendancies.... so if I get an "off" day with him on a saturday, sometimes it is an emotionally draining day and i just dont want to do it anymore.  I love my kids more than anything and I would never change that.  I just think that sometimes, a sahm's day can be emotionally draining, and you dont wanna do the job.

  For the most part, I dont wanna do the job everyday.LOL.... cleaning the house gets old when I am doing it every single day all day long..... but I guess it is just like any other job out there...LOL

  

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  • LaPrincessa80
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:36 AM

• I would call it a job...but then again so is motherhood. When you become a mother, YOU ARE ON DUTY 24/7 whether you stay home or not. I am a SAHM, and housework and kids are alot of work, but mostly b/c I spend all my time home...With this economy I dont get girls nights, or date nights (with DH) often, so Im often frustrated and jealous of dh a lil bit. As a mom, we all need more interaction with adults. I also could not imagine doing all I do, after coming home from work...My hat comes off to all the working moms out there that have to do both. Although staying home is very demanding as well.  

  Sabrina

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  • sdolly
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:38 AM

• i agree being a stay at home parent means you take the responsibility of dishes, laundry, cleaning ect... I know so many moms who think that just taking care of the children is their job, and in my opinion if the house is a disaster you aren't taking care of your children very well, they could get sick hurt ect...depending on how messy the house is...this is just one example.
  

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  • 3allgirls3
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:41 AM

• I agree being a stay at home mom is a full time job. I had a friend that was a sahm also and she didn't feel it was her responsibily to be the only one to clean her house and kids she thought the husband that was working like 60 - 80 hours a week should do it also. Needless to say they aint married no more.  I enjoyed it when I was one. Being my own boss was great. I was responsible for everything from the budget to the cleaning to the cooking to even being a PTA president. The only thing my hubby had to do was bring home the bacon.

  

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  • mommy2angels427
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:41 AM

• I don't really consider sahm a job... I consider it the best gig going.... I used to work full time outside the home... and be a mom... sahm is great, I play with the kids, cook, clean, do the laundry and sill have time to goof off on cafemom....  my closets etc have never been so organized, neither has the attic or basement....I don't spend all day cleaning etc.... sometimes I get a cooking bug and I will cook a few meals.... I toss in a load of laundry, sometimes 2 every single day... never have much more than that....we have 4 kids.. 6 mos, 2, 4, and 6... talk about a wonderful deal.... I do have to wonder how disorganized you would need to be and not have "time' to cook and clean..... the infant has colic and the 2 year old.... well.. he is very active...

  I do think providing your children with a good neat clean environment is part of being a parent.. I do think cooking meals is as well... if dh had to do all that in addition to working... sure, I would get more time to play with the kids.. but, he sure wouldn't and family time.. would be none.

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  • SnappyKaliZai
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:42 AM

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  Quoting Crystallynn:
  
  

  well there are a lot of determining factors with this.......LOL

  For the most part, i agree with you.   In order for it to be a job, you have to do the job.  BUT on the other hand, I am a sahm and my husband is deployed, so I am also a "single" mom..... and although M-F the kids are in school, it is the weekends that I am afraid of.  My son has ADHD/ Combined type with Depressive tendancies.... so if I get an "off" day with him on a saturday, sometimes it is an emotionally draining day and i just dont want to do it anymore.  I love my kids more than anything and I would never change that.  I just think that sometimes, a sahm's day can be emotionally draining, and you dont wanna do the job.

  For the most part, I dont wanna do the job everyday.LOL.... cleaning the house gets old when I am doing it every single day all day long..... but I guess it is just like any other job out there...LOL

  I agree completely! My husband is going to school and works full time. I do EVERYTHING around the house. I do mean everything. If it doesn't get done, it's my fault. It is very draining to do the same things over and over again everyday. Most days I don't mind doing all the cleaning and yard work and stuff, but other days I just feel like siting on my butt all day. I try to explain it to my hubby. He goes into work from 5-2....then he's done for the day. He gets weekends off too. I don't. So if I decide on a tuesday that I don't wanna do anything, I better not hear any grief about it!! lol
  

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  • momaof8
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:43 AM

• We have all been there. There are days we have all wanted to quit lol. Iam mostly talking about the moms who are Sahms but don't take care of their homes someone else does it or the cooking. Heck some even use daycare or nannies. I think you can only equate it with a fulltime job if you put that much into it. I have eight and we homeschool. I still do all the cooking and cleaning. That is fulltime lol.  Not someone who has one and after working all day dad does the dishes and laundry.
  

  Quoting Crystallynn:
  
  

  well there are a lot of determining factors with this.......LOL

  For the most part, i agree with you.   In order for it to be a job, you have to do the job.  BUT on the other hand, I am a sahm and my husband is deployed, so I am also a "single" mom..... and although M-F the kids are in school, it is the weekends that I am afraid of.  My son has ADHD/ Combined type with Depressive tendancies.... so if I get an "off" day with him on a saturday, sometimes it is an emotionally draining day and i just dont want to do it anymore.  I love my kids more than anything and I would never change that.  I just think that sometimes, a sahm's day can be emotionally draining, and you dont wanna do the job.

  For the most part, I dont wanna do the job everyday.LOL.... cleaning the house gets old when I am doing it every single day all day long..... but I guess it is just like any other job out there...LOL

  
  

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  • isra1986
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 7:44 AM

• I agree!
  I am a SAHM, my work is here! DH works outside the house, 14 hours everyday, on his feet, no time to sit and relax and watch TV or surf online like I do. I couldn't even imagine him coming home and telling him he has do do half the housework because it's "his house too!"
  If he offers, and he does often, I will not deny him, but it's not his job. It's mine.
  I have the more important job, but his is much more physically demanding and he deserves to relzx when he gets home. By time he gets home, DD is in bed and everything is done, so we relax together!

  
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