Im so tired of getting in stupid fights with my over reactive anger issues dh..... he like flips out over stupid stuff and more often than not tells me to pack my shit
i was about to pack my stuff and go back to where my family is when i found out i was pregnant..... i dont want to have kid with him cause i kno realistically its not gonna work out in the long run.... he was on anti-depressants for his PSTD (he went to iraq few times b4 i met him) and he was so nice we didnt fight for almost two weeks, but then he had some sexual side effects from the med (not being able to climax) and so he stopped takin it cause it was frustrating him.... and i knew he had stopped taking it within a few days cause he went back to flippy mcgee flipping out over everything.... he says its not from not taking the medicine but i could tell the difference (he didnt tell me he stopped i asked him have u been takin ur med n he sd no) im so sick of this
i moved to ohio with him when he and my mom got into a stupid argument and we had to leave i left like 2/3 of my stuff there and i dont know anyone here but him and his family (who hes pretty much turned against me even tho they try to act all phoney to my face they say shit that i kno how they really feel).... it just sucks cause ive been so depressed ive tried to be happy about his pregnancy but all the fighting just brings me down.... Now before i get shit for saying htat i dont wanna be pregnant and that i should be happy and feel lucky i can have kids i kno this and i feel for anyone that cant or has had problems, ive miscarried before (back in june) so i kno how it feels.... but i think it feels worse to be pregnant in a marriage that u have nothing in common with ur husband u fight all the time and are probably gonna get a divorce and then have the asshole fight u for the kid..... and then ill be a single mom with kids from two different men and have to share them both with two differnt people...
im sorry im just really upset today has been a bad day im just so tired of it.... and i get shit for not feeling good and for not having a job when ive tried to get one but apparently i havent tried enough for him
i just dont get y he has to be such a fuckin asshole, he used to be so nice and he can be SO nice on his good days.....
thanks......
Quoting miralerk:I wish i could give you a hug. You have a long road in front of you and only you can decide what is best for you and the baby. Good Luck.
I know how you feel....I was about to leave my SO 2 year.s ago, as soon as I got enough power in me to do it..I found out I was preg with my now DD. It was a horrible feeling, I felt trapped and I hated it...Needless to say I still took my son and left for a few weeks. When my SO knew I was serious and sick of all the shit he was pulling and made a chang for the better..We are Still together and have been for 7 years...there will always be bumps in the road. Maybe you can leave for a few weeks, so he has a chance to relize what he would be missing out on if you really "packed your shit"....good luck momma!
dont worry everyhing will come into place soon enough. just keep holding on for the little one.
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I don't even really know how to approach this. I'm really sorry that you're struggling. Maybe you could suggest dh to go to counseling by himself and maybe marriage counseling for you both? If there are deeper issues, they will end up finding it and that could help. Not only that, maybe they can get a different type of mediciation that doesn't have the same side effects.
I hate that you feel stuck like that, and you're pregnant again. [not sorry that you're pregnant, but stuck & pregnant]. Congrats on the little baby in your tummy, take are of him/her. I'll keep yall in my prayers. I hope everything turns out right.
well it seems like i get pregnant at the worst times lol when i got pregnant with my dd her dad and i had just barely gotten back together and were already talkin about splitting back up when i found out we made it work for a while but we realized our differences (went thru some drama) but we both moved on, and now somedays i feel like my dh is a worse situation than with my dds dad and i cant even seeing work as long as it did with my dds dad..... ive been thinkin about goin home but the thing is i have medicaid so i dont know how that would work if i go home for a few months i would have to apply for medicaid there and then if/when i come back id have to reapply idk if they let you do that..... plus where im from is about 16 hours from here and then every month beginning and end we have to drive 5 hours to drop dd off with her dad he lives about 10 hours from here and if i go home i wont havea car and her dad lives about 13/14 hours from where i would be and the court agreement is for us to meet half way.... so im in quite i pickle... in away i wanted to go home cause my ob was the best and i already hate this new docs office....
Quoting mommyiverson22:I know how you feel....I was about to leave my SO 2 year.s ago, as soon as I got enough power in me to do it..I found out I was preg with my now DD. It was a horrible feeling, I felt trapped and I hated it...Needless to say I still took my son and left for a few weeks. When my SO knew I was serious and sick of all the shit he was pulling and made a chang for the better..We are Still together and have been for 7 years...there will always be bumps in the road. Maybe you can leave for a few weeks, so he has a chance to relize what he would be missing out on if you really "packed your shit"....good luck momma!
he already does because of his PSTD he goes to the VA hosp and they have him see two diff types of counclers but they have nothing to do with me or our marriage and hes told me that our marriage doesnt ever come up (they are more concerned with the PSTD from war)...and thanks
Quoting slm047:*hugs*
I don't even really know how to approach this. I'm really sorry that you're struggling. Maybe you could suggest dh to go to counseling by himself and maybe marriage counseling for you both? If there are deeper issues, they will end up finding it and that could help. Not only that, maybe they can get a different type of mediciation that doesn't have the same side effects.
I hate that you feel stuck like that, and you're pregnant again. [not sorry that you're pregnant, but stuck & pregnant]. Congrats on the little baby in your tummy, take are of him/her. I'll keep yall in my prayers. I hope everything turns out right.
ss momma i feel your pain. im not pregnant but my husband flips out too and is very angry. i have 3 girls from 2 men but my oldests father doesnt really have anything to do with her. today is one of them days where my husband thinks i am his slave and i just want to tell him off and leave. he moved me 65 miles away from my family to be closer to his dad and step mom who hate me. i just started workin and its a whole 6 hours a week so i cant get out on my own yet.
You have to listen to your head and your heart and do what you feel is best for you and your children. Do you want to continue living in a hostile situation? Do you want to consider counseling? Do you want to go back home? These are questions that no one can answer for you except you. It doesn't sound like he is willing to make necessary changes for a happier life, but then again - we don't know the entire story on this site.....that is something only you know.
Just read over everyone's post, absorb what you can learn here, and do what is best for you and your daughter and your unborn child. No one can tell you what to do in a situation like this, unfortunately. You have to do it yourself.
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