I'm in a very difficult situation. Two years ago i had a daughter with special needs. we decided that i would leave my job to take care of her. in that time i've gained a considerable amount of weight. my husband barely pays any attention to me any more. I think its the stress of being the only income, my weight gain, and Ash's special needs that is causing the problems. Any way every time i try to talk to him about it he just leaves. i had a misscariage last week that i feel was due to all the stress. I'm tired of trying and would like a divorce. the problem is i have no job to support me and my daughter. what should i do?
Quoting MarineWife1108:I'm not really sure. Sorry. Here's a bump.
I think you shouldn't make these kinds of decisions during times of grief. Go to some counseling and start working out. Getting some exercise will help you feel better and give you more energy. If the weight gain is something that is bothering you then change it. I am sorry that you lost a child. There is no easy way to get through it but jumping into divorce is not the answer.
Have you talked to your doctor about whats going on? It sounds like you may be experiencing some depression. You have had a stressful couple of years, its understandable to feel like you are, especially when your support system is little to none. I would talk to a counselor, and if DH wants to join then great, but mainly so you can sort through some of these feelings for yourself and your daughter. With less emotion flowing through your veins, you will be able to make clearer decisions. Good luck!
How about marriage counseling? Something else that may help that is not expensive is the "Love Dare". Also, try to have a sit down with him, don;'t get confrontational or approach in a nasty tone....just ask him to please sit and talk and that your marriage is at stake and you would like to talk to him without him leaving...
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on Nov. 8, 2009 at 2:30 PM