how do dishes and laundry define what kind of parent you are?

I've honestly never washed a dish in my life. I've always had an automatic dishwasher to do that for me. lol 

i was going to post s simular question myself.   at first being a sahm, i was obsessed i had to be perfect.  a supermom.  at first it was easy.  ds was in school all day, and dd was a baby and slept.  well as she became a toddler it changed.  i found myself having this little thing needed more attention and wanting to do more with mommy. 

i keep my house fairly tidy, toys will always be somewhere lol.  i usually do the dishes right away but i have learned that if they get washed in a few hours when she naps, the world didnt crash.  life is short.  kids are only kids for a short time.  if i dont vac the house or clean a toilet so i can go to the park or an outing...so be it.  im a darn good mom.  im a great wife.  so my house doesnt look like a model home, but it does look pretty good from my point of view. 

being a sahm to me means taking care of the needs of the kids.  dh needs are met as well, and i have to meet mine as well.  dh works 7 days a week so i can be a sahm, so i do cook and clean.  he does help too, especially since im pg again.  do i ask? no, he offers because he knows that running a family isnt just one persons job, its both parents.  i think its a shame that so many feel they have to be everything to everyone but what about themselves?  what about giving the kids the time and attention they deserve? 

i have a dishwasher too but it seems like id have to run it twice a day!! we dont eat out much lol.  everything made from scratch and i try to conserve energy.  i have dry hands to show it haha

Quoting KairisMama:

I've honestly never washed a dish in my life. I've always had an automatic dishwasher to do that for me. lol 

i dont have dishwasher but i try to make it easier for myself by using paperplates it really does help..  and everyone is different  bottomline is aslong as ur kids r taken care of then all the other stuff doesn't matter!!

Quoting zjonzie:

i have a dishwasher too but it seems like id have to run it twice a day!! we dont eat out much lol.  everything made from scratch and i try to conserve energy.  i have dry hands to show it haha

Quoting KairisMama:

I've honestly never washed a dish in my life. I've always had an automatic dishwasher to do that for me. lol 

I'll never understand why SAHM's  put such provisions upon other SAHM's..

Really.. It makes no sense to me.. Instead of understanding what pressures they share, what situations they may share, the type of daily grind they may share they choose to pigeon hole each other, and set up these ideals on what a "real" SAHM is.

No wonder women can't get anywhere in this country. They are too busy seperating each other, and having to draw these imaginary lines in regards to who is better than who, who actually is this or that..  When the reality is, women in this country could have so much more power, actually achieve equal government/legislative representation (right now, women are 52% of the population with less than 18% of the representation in this country) if they actually would quit fighting amongst themselves over petty mess and actually start working together and looking out for one another.

Of course. I was never a SAHM.. So my opinion (I've learned during my time here at CM) really doesn't hold much water in this area.

Quoting EnigmaMuse:

I'll never understand why SAHM's  put such provisions upon other SAHM's..

Really.. It makes no sense to me.. Instead of understanding what pressures they share, what situations they may share, the type of daily grind they may share they choose to pigeon hole each other, and set up these ideals on what a "real" SAHM is.

No wonder women can't get anywhere in this country. They are too busy seperating each other, and having to draw these imaginary lines in regards to who is better than who, who actually is this or that..  When the reality is, women in this country could have so much more power, actually achieve equal government/legislative representation (right now, women are 52% of the population with less than 18% of the representation in this country) if they actually would quit fighting amongst themselves over petty mess and actually start working together and looking out for one another.

Of course. I was never a SAHM.. So my opinion (I've learned during my time here at CM) really doesn't hold much water in this area.

I think you said it perfectly...

I agree my house if more often than not a total mess.  I mother five children a big hairy dog a cat and I do it alone with MS because my husband is over the road 6-7 days a week.  My kids go to four different schools one 43 miles away, one 15 miles away, one 20 miles away and fortunately one only 3 miles away.  All of them have to be driven to bus stops or picked up for sports, intramurals, choir, etc....My kids are happy and healthy and vibrant and none of that comes from how clean the house is.  It comes from my commitment to them and their future success and my belief in them!  So yes I have dirty laundry, dishes, floors, etc....Oh well!  At least me and the kids are all happy!

Honestly, I don't give a rats batoonie what anyone else does.  People post their opinions of what they think defines a sahm because someone posts their opinions and choses that as a topic to discuss.  I certainly won't lose any sleep over what any mother does or doesn't do.  I think people take a topic choice to seriously.  A woman who does a LOT in her household because they feel it's their responsibility gets stoned for being a "goody two shoes sham" just as much if not more than the mom who feels her only job is to make sure her child doesn't starve or bleed to death and nothing more.  The attacks go both ways! In my life I think it's good to teach a child how to be responsible and clean up.  At the end of the day everyone in my house is very appreciative of things I do for them.  We all have a role and all of us are completely satisfied and happy with one another so clearly what we do works.  As far as criticism.  Snippy replies come from both sides.

True.

Quoting PLATINUM_BEAUTY:

Honestly, I don't give a rats batoonie what anyone else does.  People post their opinions of what they think defines a sahm because someone posts their opinions and choses that as a topic to discuss.  I certainly won't lose any sleep over what any mother does or doesn't do.  I think people take a topic choice to seriously.  A woman who does a LOT in her household because they feel it's their responsibility gets stoned for being a "goody two shoes sham" just as much if not more than the mom who feels her only job is to make sure her child doesn't starve or bleed to death and nothing more.  The attacks go both ways! In my life I think it's good to teach a child how to be responsible and clean up.  At the end of the day everyone in my house is very appreciative of things I do for them.  We all have a role and all of us are completely satisfied and happy with one another so clearly what we do works.  As far as criticism.  Snippy replies come from both sides.

Quoting EnigmaMuse:

I'll never understand why SAHM's  put such provisions upon other SAHM's..

Really.. It makes no sense to me.. Instead of understanding what pressures they share, what situations they may share, the type of daily grind they may share they choose to pigeon hole each other, and set up these ideals on what a "real" SAHM is.

No wonder women can't get anywhere in this country. They are too busy seperating each other, and having to draw these imaginary lines in regards to who is better than who, who actually is this or that..  When the reality is, women in this country could have so much more power, actually achieve equal government/legislative representation (right now, women are 52% of the population with less than 18% of the representation in this country) if they actually would quit fighting amongst themselves over petty mess and actually start working together and looking out for one another.

Of course. I was never a SAHM.. So my opinion (I've learned during my time here at CM) really doesn't hold much water in this area.

So true!!!!!!!