I just can't bring myself to hate her...

[ahappymommy]

My uncle is 1 year younger than me, raised by my mom, and is like a brother to me, and he is getting married in July!

Here is the problem, the girl he is marrying is bi-sexual, and had a girlfriend before she met my uncle.  Now my family was told this from the very beginning, so it isn't a surprise. Well recently on facebook she took a poll and stated that Gay marriage should be allowed, which I happen to agree with, as anyone with facebook knows, you can see everything everyone writes and does! Well my Aunt (this is my uncle that is getting married SIL, his brothers wife) saw what she said and threw a fit, told everyone in the family and suddenly now there is an uproar! They are all mad that she would openly say that she is bi-sexual and stand up for gay rights, everyone is mad but me! I think she had every right to state her opinion! The thing is everyone seems to think that I should be mad and not like her, and hate her! I just can't bring myself to hate her for her opinion or the fact that she is bi! I just don't see it as a big deal.  I don't understand why they were ok with her being bi, but not ok with her saying it out loud! She shouldn't have to hide! Everyone in the family is calling me and asking me if I am mad, and what do I think of her saying this where people could see it, the truth is, it doesn't bother me like they seem to think it should and they are starting to get mad at me for it, I swear my family isn't happy unless they have some sort of drama going on! I just needed to vent..it's been one of those days where I want to pull my hair out and scream "STOP THE INSANITY!"

[Jynnifer292]

I am straight and think gay people should be able to marry. I don't get why it is a problem for her to have the same opinion. No, I wouldn't be mad at her and I would think that anyone that is is looking for something to not like her about. 

[kizziefree2bme]

 

   Honestly, you are right to feel how you want to , not how they expect you to. SO What if she comes out for gay marriage, I do too, and I am in a regular marriage, so what. They really need to get a life and stop worrying about her and your uncle. People would be much better off is they just mind their own business. If they don't like it, then they don't need to go to the wedding, IMO, your uncle shouldnt want people there that are so negative. Him and your aunt don't need that. Obviously, he can deal with her past, its not a secret, so to hell with the rest of them.

[Lillymygirl]

You poor thing I don't know how to say this nicely so I will just say it . Your family sounds crazy. I hope you continue to not hate her and maybe some of the others will come around?

[MommytoKenzie08]

 I think that is crazy. Just ignore them and tell your uncle and his wife to be to not worry about it, they will get over it eventually. The other day at work we were talking about people we had dated in the past and I was talking about how I dated a boy that was latino and a black boy I ran cross country with. This boy that I "was" friends with looked at me and said "Are you serious? You know i'm judging you right?" I laughed out loud so hard...and replied "You want to judge? I had sex with both of them and it was freakin amazing! Judge on that" he walked away and I gave him the finger =)

[MarineWife1108]

Quoting Jynnifer292:

I am straight and think gay people should be able to marry. I don't get why it is a problem for her to have the same opinion. No, I wouldn't be mad at her and I would think that anyone that is is looking for something to not like her about. 

[Clairwil]

Heh, in your place I'd be tempted to yank the family's chains.  Let them discover gay pride parade pictures in your house, or something.

[kk_bella]

 I'm sorry you're going through that.

I have no qualms about this, though; my family would know exactly what I think about the situation. I would most definitely tell them that I support gay marriage and that they are being bigoted asshats.

Family or not, someone needs to stand up for what is right.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "One you decide what you believe in, and what you think is right, have the courage to stand up for it and to stand alone."

[Rachael06]

Well,if she is going to marry your uncle then she won't be able to be bisexual anymore. Unless they are having an open relationship in which case, why get married?

[mamafor6]

Damn with bodies like that its not fair that they are gay LOL

OP just let it go Some people have no manners or open minds.

Quoting Clairwil:

Heh, in your place I'd be tempted to yank the family's chains.  Let them discover gay pride parade pictures in your house, or something.