My DD will be 4 on the 17th. Her ONLY chores are to clean her play room, and to make sure her bunnies have food. I do the water, and clean out the cages. I helped her clean her playroom the other day.. didnt last.. I told her today shes cleaning it on her own. she told me NO.. WAIT.. IM WATCHiNG A MOVIE.. I'll doo it tomorrow.. I asked her 3 times. First i turned off the T.V and she threw a huge fit. I kept giving her a chance to start before i called in the help.. dad.. She kept telling me NO.. We fight over this everytime. SOOO I finally gave up. I sent her to her room. Me and dad took ALL of her toys.. EVERY SINGLE ONE. She wont be getting them back for a week. In your oppinion is a week too long? I'm sick and tired of her back talking when i tell her to do something so simple. The only thing she has left in her play room and room is books. Thats it. Through out the week im going to be cleaning out cabinets and wiping off walls in prep to move in a few months. She will be helping me wipe stuff down. Is it too much to ask of her?
I say NOPE, that is what a lot of parents do, only we told my SD that her toys would be thrown away, and we didnt really throw them away but she thought we were so she straightened up after that, we say if you cant put them back where they go, I guess you dont need them. Or if you cant take care of them.
I dont think this is too harsh, maybe a week is a little long. However I have a 5 year old a three year old and a 2 year old that are expected to keep their room clean. That is there only chore. If they dont do this then they have to suffer the consequences of not following the rules. My kids loved helping me wipe down walls when we were moving I used a watergun that only I used and had them catch the water as it ran down the walls. It worked out great because I got walls cleaned we spent family time together and they had fun. Hope this helps.
I think your expecting a little too much of her personally. They say give time out a minute for every year. Giving a child a week punishment is kinda extreme. THough she needs to be corrected and know when you state to do something you mean then and not later, but cut her some slack. Help clean along w/ her. Also make sure you are fair about it by stating... at the next commercial I want you to _____ or we're going to have to turn off the tv until _________ is done.
I think that you are expecting far too much from a child who isn't yet 4 years old. Yes, you are being too harsh.
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Nope, I think its the right thing. Also its not asking her to do much either. This is what I plan to do with DD when she gets older. We are already teaching her to put her toys away (she takes them out again but she is only 9 months lol)
Not in my opinion!! I have a 3 year old son who does the same thing.. If asked more than twice I will take away the tv in his play room( for the rest of the day).. If he still doesn't want to clean up the toys I do it and then put them in the garage for a day or two!!
I offer to help him, we sing the "clean up song" and such but some days he just refuses.. I won't be his maid and there is no reason he can't pick them up! We can do lots of other fun things in that time but his toys are not one of them!
He is learning that if he can't clean up his messes then he won't have the toys to mess.. I am sure she will be fine for a week and when she gets them back hopefully she will respect her belonging a little more!
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although, i do think a week may be a tad long, i do not think you are being to harsh at all. and the only reason i would not be able to do it for a week (at that age) is because i am fairly certain i would go crazy with a very bored child, lol!! are you going to let her earn back any toys through out the week? that may be a good way to reinforce good behavior. i have bagged up all of my childrens toys many times before!! luckily, they got the idea and i havent had to do that in years!
oh, and i have had them help clean walls many times also. sometimes they like it, lol!
Ok picking up her toys and doing as she is told when she is told is reasonable and at that age ok to be expected of her. However I don't think you need to expect her to wipe things down when you are cleaning next week for whatever reason. She is 4, cleaning her own mess is one thing but helping you do chores around the house is another. I didn't expect my DD who is now 12 to help me until she was 8 or 9. Even then her only chore aside from picking up her toys was to clean her room and her room alone. Vacuum , dust and tidy up closet once a week. Now is different. I expect alot more from her as she is older. I think if she wants to help you wipe things down that is cool. Tessa did that too alot when younger "I wanna be like mommy and do what she does", but I never expected her to do it.
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on Nov. 8, 2009 at 5:25 PM