Filing for child support while dad is military... {updated}

[mommatotwokids]

Well Im in kind of a complicated situation, I am still legally married to DH but when he came back from basic AIT he decided he wanted a divorce (this was the end of August)..we had already put a deposit down on our new house in Missouri, which was where we were supposed to be stationed but he bought a plane ticket and went alone leaving me and the kids here (ages 4 and 11 months). I was a SAHM, so I took the $800 we had left in the bank and found a little 2 bedroom and got things situated, I have been looking for a job so bad, Ive applied at Wendys, hotels, walmart, everywhere that says they are hiring but Ive yet to find a job. The only way bills are up to date right now is because of the Army Relief, they paid my bills, basically in the form of a loan coming out of his pay over a period of a year. I just found out his company but I have no military experience so I dont know how to get ahold of anybody to enforce some sort of family support. I told him I was going to go to the child support office and file but he said that since he was miilitary that NC child support enforcement would not do it, they have to go off of the army standards, which he said was 300/mo. I dont live near an army base so I cant go talk to legal, but I live near Camp Lejeune (marines) and have went there but they said Army does not enforce family support. Anyways, I guess my questions are: can I file for child support with them going off of basic NC guidelines or do I just get 300/mo according to Army standards..and if anybody can tell me if Army enforces family support while still married, that would be great. Thanks so much in advance.

 

Update: Well I was finally about to get ahold of his Sgt, that is the only number I have for any of his command, and I explained to him what was going on. He said he had already spoke to my ex about setting up an allotment of support and he would have a talk with him, this was yesterday morning, and he assured me he would give me a call back yesterday and let me know what was going on. Well I didnt hear back from him at all yesterday of course its the weekend now so nobody is picking up. I spoke to my ex and he said everybody is aware of the situation but they arent taking it seriously. I dont know whether his Sgt just spoke to me to get me off the phone or whether they are going to be doing something for me? Anyways,  just wanted to give an update.

[CallieLynsMommy]

I have no clue mama. Here is a bump for you though, good luck!

[heidi37217]

BUMP sorry i can't help

[Brat111507]

Yes, the Army does require him to pay for child support if it is court ordered. They will take it out of his pay. Once you have the court order you can speak to JAG and they will make sure the support is enforced. Also if you contact his chain of command and let them know the situation  they will make sure he is making the necessary payments as far as BAH II for you to live on. PM me if you need more information.

[mommatotwokids]

I have no idea how to go about  contacting his command..I had a copy of his PCS orders so I called Fort Leonard Wood and they called me back on Friday and told me his company & battilion but I dont know where to go from there..

Quoting Brat111507:

Yes, the Army does require him to pay for child support if it is court ordered. They will take it out of his pay. Once you have the court order you can speak to JAG and they will make sure the support is enforced. Also if you contact his chain of command and let them know the situation  they will make sure he is making the necessary payments as far as BAH II for you to live on. PM me if you need more information.

[CAarmywife]

dh says hes not sure. but he says when u ARE divorced u take ur court order for child support to defas who will take it out of his pay. when u are NOT divorced all u are entitled to is his bah. i asked how do u get that if he doesnt want to pay and he says he has no idea. but if he doesnt pay child support it is baddd for him in the army.

[miss_nevin]

Go to Jag and if the childsupport office states he has to pay 800 the military will make him pay for that

[Heather0816]

Quoting Brat111507:

Yes, the Army does require him to pay for child support if it is court ordered. They will take it out of his pay. Once you have the court order you can speak to JAG and they will make sure the support is enforced. Also if you contact his chain of command and let them know the situation  they will make sure he is making the necessary payments as far as BAH II for you to live on. PM me if you need more information.

Contact his chain of command asap! Once they find out he hasn't been taking care of his obligations they will get the ball rolling.  As far as the $300.00 a month, he has a rude awakening coming! Don't forget you will also get alimony if you didn't work while you were married.  I hope things work out for you.

[1stTimeMama2010]

Okay well, my husband and I split for a while in 08. And he is stationed in NC. All I was getting was basically alimony, as I didn't have kids, and the standard he had to give me was 2/3 of his bah which was roughly $600 a month. So I think your hubby may be trying to scam you.

I had to "find" my husband when we split because I had no clue where he was. If you want you can send me a pm and I will help you the best I know how.

And I did find my hubby and got all the money I was owed. Lol. Needless to say we are back together now but still, while we were seperated I was all about getting mine. Lol.

[mommatotwokids]

We were together 5 yrs but only married since last mach so I was told I wouldnt get alimony since were werent married very long...Ive only worked a total of like 4 months since I had our son though...

Quoting Heather0816:

 

Quoting Brat111507:

Yes, the Army does require him to pay for child support if it is court ordered. They will take it out of his pay. Once you have the court order you can speak to JAG and they will make sure the support is enforced. Also if you contact his chain of command and let them know the situation  they will make sure he is making the necessary payments as far as BAH II for you to live on. PM me if you need more information.

Contact his chain of command asap! Once they find out he hasn't been taking care of his obligations they will get the ball rolling.  As far as the $300.00 a month, he has a rude awakening coming! Don't forget you will also get alimony if you didn't work while you were married.  I hope things work out for you.

[SoldierMom86]

 He is receiving BAH for you and your baby, and you are entitled to it.  Do you have the contact information for anyone in his unit?  I'm not sure about child support...do you have a legal separation?  He does have to support you and the child b/c he is receiving money for you two.  You need to get in contact w/his First Sergeant or Commander, ASAP. 

If you know his unit information, you usually can google the unit and their command information will come up.  If you get their names I can look on AKO and get their phone numbers...  If you give me HIS name, I can probably get you a phone number just from that...