DD is turning 1 Jan. 22. I started planning her birthday early because I know that a lot of my family work in the medical field and would be to put in the dates rather early of they were to come. I havent sent out invites yet because I am waiting on addresses from my grandparents. I told them I would like them even if they know that any of my relatives would not come because I know they might appreciate the thought anyhow. I also have alot of them on my facebook so I did an event invite there just to give them a little more heads up.
Well I have been checking periodically not expecting anyone to decline or accept yet because it is still rather early yet. Well I have had 2 of my aunts already decline saying that they wont come because its by me. It makes me want to cry that they dont even want to be part of my daughter's first birthday. They have gone to my cousin's girls birthdays all of them. I cant even get a little thought because of where I am at. Its not like I am even that far away, 45 min and they dont even need to stay the whole time.
I dont even feel part of the family anymore with my dads side. I get treated better by my step-moms side of the family and we are not even close to being blood. My aunts on her side are her step-sisters and they all are excited about it. My one aunt lives over 3 hrs and told me that she will just stay with my grandma that weekend so she can be there.
I just want my daughter to be treated better than me. I dont even feel like going to Christmas there but I know my Grandparents will be crushed if I dont show up.
Sorry this is long. I just cant help but be upset about this. If you need anything cleared up let me know I am still very upset and probably not making any sense at all.
I know how you feel....my family has done that to me for every event we have planned, and even half my family didn't show up for my dd's first birthday. So this year when she turned two, I didn't have a party, I just did a family thing with dh, me and the kids...and everyone bitched. It was like no matter what I do, no one is happy. Can't wait till february when I don't have a party for my twins' 4th birthday either...just gonna have to deal with the same shit.
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yay yet again nothing, makes me feel so much better.
Uhhhmmmm... you wrote that 14 minutes after your first post. Be patient little girl.
I'm sorry you are goping thru this tho... I dotn have any advice for you, but I hope you are able to enjoy your DH's 1st B-Day no matter WHO joins you!
sorry momma, I know a little bit of how you feel though. I started planning and getting dds b-day stuff together. (she will be turning 2 dec 9) but i started in mid september bc we dont have much money so i was getting a little bit at a time. But her 1st b-day no one showed up and we invited everyone. More of them said they are coming this year but i wont hold my breath on it. If they are 'to good' for my DD now then when they do want to come around we will be to good for them. lol
I feel like canceling the whole thing because of how that side is making me feel but I already have so much planned and its important to me. Birthdays are important on my moms side of the family and thats what I picked up from her and them. Plus I want her to have those memories because I didnt. I just dont know what I am going to say when she asks later why they werent there.
Quoting fallnangel93:
I know how you feel....my family has done that to me for every event we have planned, and even half my family didn't show up for my dd's first birthday. So this year when she turned two, I didn't have a party, I just did a family thing with dh, me and the kids...and everyone bitched. It was like no matter what I do, no one is happy. Can't wait till february when I don't have a party for my twins' 4th birthday either...just gonna have to deal with the same shit.
Sorry its just usually when I have more than 30 views by that time no one will even say Boo I have many posts like that I have deleted.
Quoting SnowKristal:
Quote:by on Nov. 8, 2009 at 10:27 PM yay yet again nothing, makes me feel so much better.
Uhhhmmmm... you wrote that 14 minutes after your first post. Be patient little girl.I'm sorry you are goping thru this tho... I dotn have any advice for you, but I hope you are able to enjoy your DH's 1st B-Day no matter WHO joins you!
thanks. I hope her party turns out great.
Quoting mommy2_2008:
sorry momma, I know a little bit of how you feel though. I started planning and getting dds b-day stuff together. (she will be turning 2 dec 9) but i started in mid september bc we dont have much money so i was getting a little bit at a time. But her 1st b-day no one showed up and we invited everyone. More of them said they are coming this year but i wont hold my breath on it. If they are 'to good' for my DD now then when they do want to come around we will be to good for them. lol
I feel that way too. They are the only ones that showed for my baby shower, call me on my birthday, ask me how school is going, or even just call to see how things are going.
Quoting kimmyrenee30:
If they are going to be that way then you don't want them there anyway.. yay for your step mom's family that wants to be there for you and your daughter.. just focus on that and forget the rest.. it sounds to me like your step mom's family is the "real" family here!!
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