What about the DADS in all this ABORTION talk? Why dont they have a say???

[Rosalynsmomma]

So i was sitting here thinking.. abortion seems to be the topic of CM this week and i thought i would put my two cents in... Because of the simple fact that it takes TWO people to make a baby, shouldn't the other person who helped create it have a say in the matter as well?

If ANY WOMAN is legally able to make any decision she wants for her pregnancy ( Abortion, Adoption, Keep it.. And all without having to have consent from the father) Shouldnt the would-be father have the right to those decisions as well?? If he doesnt want a baby, should he have the right to give up all parental rights? ( Not see, take care of, or pay child support). Granted i personally believe he should do those things if she decides to keep it...

And what if he does want the baby but she doesn't? What if she wants to abort but he wants her to have it? It takes two to make a life and not necessarily two to take care of that life.. It IS his baby as well. I think men should have a say in this matter as well. Also, why is it okay for a woman to have the baby and give it up for adoption without the fathers consent? Not every man is damn deadbeat! I think their should be a law that says you must produce the father for paternity testing and have his consent for adoption OR SHOW A DAMN DEATH CERTIFICATE.

 

 and an FYI I am NOT talking about rape or anything of the sort!!! So dont bring it up! I am talking about boyfriend/girlfriend type scenerios... idk.. i have a lot mixed feelings when it comes to abortion.  I just want to know what all you ladies think when it comes to the males perspective. I believe they should have a say as well. And pleeeeeease no bashing i just want opinions.

julie

[savannahnhi]

nope, the father has no say in it.  her body= her choice

bash away.

[HeatherMae55]

Regardless of what the man says or how he feels it is still left up to the woman.  I do think that the woman should discuss her decision with him, but again she's the one who's pregnant.

[sophistcatdfury]

they do! the women on here give them a say. haven't you been reading abortion posts? shit..

[SGJsmom]

I am in agreement with you 100%.

Quoting savannahnhi:

nope, the father has no say in it.  her body= her choice

bash away.

[Gabeys_Mommy]

I've always thought about that in regards to the abortion argument. I can't imagine someone telling me they were going to abort MY baby and I didn't have a say in it... that would be absolutely awful. I really feel they should have a choice.

[tha-hawt-mommie]

My BF told me he was there for w/e decision i made , hes stand by 110% ... He said he figured i knew best for us ... but we didnt get one anway lol , misunderstanding 

[angelove8]

 I feel bad for my BIL....he's had 3 chicks abort babies by him! He so badly wants to have a baby...his fiancee and now wife even had an abortion. My DH and I are prolife for ourselves. After this baby we will be using natural family planning and if we get pregnant then we get pregnant. My DH said it would rip a part of his heart out if I got an abortion without telling him.

[ElShaddi]

I agree OP. The woman would not have to make the choice of aborting, keeping or adoption if it wasnt for the man. The woman are selfish when they do not include the babies father. 

[DixieFlower]

Well here is my concern with a man having a say in stopping an abortion. First and formost how do we know that he will truely be there to support that child when it is born or is just using this situation as a method of control over the woman? Not all women have easy pregnancies. Some end up having to take a leave from work (which in most instances is unpaid) and even end up being hospitalized. So is this man that wants the pregnancy going to step up and support her when she no longer can due to the pregnancy? Is he going to use this even more to control her (ie: I had to pay your bills so you OWE me..etc) I agree that if a man doesn't want a child and a mother decides to continue with the pregnancy he should have the right to step away. Ah but yet another slippery slope occurs. What if this couple decided together to have a child. She gets pregnant and the father then decides "I'm not ready or I don't want a child anymore?" Then the woman is left with the responsibility. As to the adoption question there actually are guidelines in most states to attempt to find the biological father even when the mother says she isn't sure. Of course most of the attempts are rather futile (placing a notice in the town the child was born or the last place the "father" was known to live). There have been several cases where an adopted child was returned to the biological dad because he wasn't consented prior to the adoption.

[photoqueen240]

The father should DEFINATLY get a voice in the decision to abort what is also HIS child.

But the women's reproductive rights movement and the ppl involved are VERY self absorbed, seflish and hateful. They think he should get a say as long as it means he agrees with abortion. If not, TOO BAD, she's gonna murder your child anyway.