Am I being a bit** or not?

[Kageegirl]

     Dh and I have been married for almost 6 years.  If there's one thing I know it's that dh can not manage money.  This has been proven time and time again.  With that said last Monday I used the money in the account from his paycheck on Friday to pay the Electric bill and the cell phone bill.  We had $9 in the account.  I told dh that we'd be short on cash until his next paycheck and he was like, "okay babe!"  Wednesday he worked late at work and bought all the guys at work fastfood.  The bank went ahead and paid it but charged our account $35.  The bank charged us $35 Thursday and $35 on Friday.  The bank took $145 out of his paycheck when it got directly deposited.  He didn't tell me that he bought take out after work I had to find out Friday when I checked the account.  My son's birthday party is next Sunday.  We are renting out a lane at a bowling alley and inviting my parents my sister and her 3 kids plus my dh's sister plus we'll be there.  We already ordered the cake and everything.  Only thing left to do was to call and set up with the bowling alley.  I've been reminding dh all last week to call and set that up but it wasn't until yesterday that he did it.  Thing is he didn't tell me he did it so when my mom called about the party I had to tell her I didn't know if he reserved the lane or not.  When I called to ask him he bit my head of because he said I was accusing him of not doing something he did.  If he would have told me he did it I wouldn't be calling to ask.  Well this is the one that really gets me.  For the past two weeks I have been doing odd jobs to get money to put away for the kids for christmas.  I babysat my neighbors kids for a few hours, I babysat my 8 year old and 6 year old niece and nephew for a few hours, and I cleaned my brothers house.  I had managed to save $80.  Well Saturday we went and bought my son his birthday present.  Sunday Dh filled up his car which is the second time this week and he had to buy more supplies for his pool table business.  This morning dh went out to his car and his car wouldn't start.  He tried to jump his car with mine and it didn't work.  He was late to work because he took his battery and starter up to autozone to have it checked.  Turned out his starter was bad.  he called me and asked if he could use the debit card to buy his starter it was less then $100.  I told him we didn't have it in the account.  He asked me to lend him the money out of the kids christmas money.  I told him I wouldn't do it.  He got all defensive saying stuff.  Kept telling me that he'd pay back the money this friday.  That's the kids christmas money not his.  Our sons birthday party is this sunday I know we'll need some of his paycheck for food so he won't be able to pay the money back.  Well he ended up taking my car to work today and probably will for the rest of the week.  It drives me nuts because he won't be able to drive his car all week.  He's going to run the gas out of my car then have to fill up.  He just filled up yesterday $32 worth of gas and he can't use it.  Am I just being a bit** for not giving him the money, for not trusting him with the debit card and for calling him to ask about the party.

[Crazy4Mustangs]

I would be doing the exact same thing you are. If he can't be trusted with money and you know it won't be replaced and it's for other things you need, stick to your guns.

[scootermom]

Quoting Crazy4Mustangs:

I would be doing the exact same thing you are. If he can't be trusted with money and you know it won't be replaced and it's for other things you need, stick to your guns.